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As a rule, I don't date co workers. I would say most of my time spent has to do with music. I like to attend concerts. I'm thinking about volunteering for Bernie Sanders campaign if the right role exists.
Working on a campaign might be a way to meet someone compatible. I totally agree with you, no need to date someone who is not who you want, just to be dating.
If you are meeting random women, keep in mind about 70 to 80% will *NOT* be child-free. That still gives you about 2 out of 10 for this not to be a problem, assuming all the other factors are compatible.
Another idea might be to do some volunteer work for NARAL or similar, while the crew there won't be 100% child-free, probably more than 20%.
Again, I think anyone looking for a "Purple Squirrel" ought to go primarily with OLD.
Props to you for insisting on thinking with the "big head". Keep on keepin' on!
that's why you spin them plates, homie. Don't focus on one woman, because you are wasting time and it may lead to oneitis, which is a very bad disease for a man to catch. Get to the point where you have to write down your dates for the next 7 days so you don't forget their names, and you will know you have already won.
What exactly is he winning in the above situation, other than the stress of trying to remember the women he will be dating?
I didn't scream at you, I simply stated that being attracted to someone and chemistry has nothing to do with logic. Falling in love has nothing to do with logic. If people were rationale, they would never fall in love. Thankfully, we're not rationale in that arena.
I then asked you how successful have you been doing using logic to fall in love. You haven't been, so it seems. So suggesting that as a course of action is not prudent.
I think people really underestimate here how hard it is to find that chemistry and fall in love. You don't case away a chance at love because there MIGHT be some fundamental compatibility difference. That's just nuts.
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I'm quite the logical person, and one thing Ive learned when it comes to relationships... is the heart knows no logic.
Agreed. Me and my husband are prime example of illogicals. Well actually it is him because he did tell me he KNOWS I want kids. It's in my profile. He did say it stated in his profile, he didn't want kids. Silly me, I did not check. Had I known, we would not be married today because I will not even meet him!
In fairness to him, he did made me think for a week! to make sure I will not blame him that I will be childless if decide to marry him.
Then there was the condom breaking 2 months into marriage, the drama that followed that made us almost divorced...
Relationship, I am telling you, logic is FAR from it. In fact it is out of the window. Love and logic don't mix. Period. At least for us.
Working on a campaign might be a way to meet someone compatible. I totally agree with you, no need to date someone who is not who you want, just to be dating.
If you are meeting random women, keep in mind about 70 to 80% will *NOT* be child-free. That still gives you about 2 out of 10 for this not to be a problem, assuming all the other factors are compatible.
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OP is in his mid-20's. Most women in his age range are child-free. If you mean, don't plan to remain child-free, and want to have kids someday, then you have a point.
As a rule, I don't date co workers. I would say most of my time spent has to do with music. I like to attend concerts. I'm thinking about volunteering for Bernie Sanders campaign if the right role exists.
Canvassing, and staffing a campaign office is a great way to meet like-minded people. Concerts can be good, too, if you're the friendly type, and are comfortable striking up conversations with strangers, which may not be your thing. Are you still in grad school? Grad school has a lot of potential for meeting people, too.
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Agreed. Me and my husband are prime example of illogicals. Well actually it is him because he did tell me he KNOWS I want kids. It's in my profile. He did say it stated in his profile, he didn't want kids. Silly me, I did not check. Had I known, we would not be married today because I will not even meet him!
In fairness to him, he did made me think for a week! to make sure I will not blame him that I will be childless if decide to marry him.
Then there was the condom breaking 2 months into marriage, the drama that followed that made us almost divorced...
Relationship, I am telling you, logic is FAR from it. In fact it is out of the window. Love and logic don't mix. Period. At least for us.
Nice story and all due respect but, you both made choices I would never have made. It just does not make sense to me to pursue someone who is decided on having children when I'm decided on not having children.
Nice story and all due respect but, you both made choices I would never have made. It just does not make sense to me to pursue someone who is decided on having children when I'm decided on not having children.
Well my husband said he did have second thoughts contacting me. Because he was aware of the fact. I honestly wasn't. I don't know what would have happened had I known. I am leaning on... I would still be online dating by now. Either that or full time hermit mode.
What exactly is he winning in the above situation, other than the stress of trying to remember the women he will be dating?
It leads to many more women finding him attractive, just because of it, and he gets to choose the best mate, if he is ever wanting to settle down. Seems like a pretty good deal to me.
Well, you said to keep you posted. That girl isn't gonna work out. Just not attracted to her. God, I feel like I'm asking the world for one woman out of 7-8 billion to like me who I actually have a PHYSICAL attraction to.
Just curious, how did you arrive at this conclusion? Was it all based on FB photos? Did you even meet up with her?
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Had I known, we would not be married today because I will not even meet him!
to make sure I will not blame him that I will be childless if decide to marry him.
