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What I'm trying to do is to cut a potentially detrimental relationship off BEFORE I catch feelings and fall in love with someone who I ain't compatible with.
I understand that - and I get the whole not wanting children thing. But just make sure that you are just looking for reasons to avoid dating/love/relationships.
But by approaching things with such a clinical outlook, without using emotion, you also could be overlooking some amazing people.
Just because a person is amazing doesn't mean you have to date them. I've met plenty of amazing women over the last week but I didn't want to date them.
What I'm trying to do is to cut a potentially detrimental relationship off BEFORE I catch feelings and fall in love with someone who I ain't compatible with.
I call this "Thinking with the big head" and consider it a good thing. If people abuse you for this, consider the source of the comment, and blow it off!
Some people like Diss and I have what I call "single-point deal breakers" - child-free is one we happen to share. Some posters here apparently don't have these, and are apparently willing to "give it a try" with someone who is appealing enough, even though they will probably have an incompatibility down the road that can't be overcome.
Just because a person is amazing doesn't mean you have to date them. I've met plenty of amazing women over the last week but I didn't want to date them.
Speaking of logic, that's quite a logical leap you made. Where did I say you HAVE to date someone who you think is amazing?
I call this "Thinking with the big head" and consider it a good thing. If people abuse you for this, consider the source of the comment, and blow it off!
Some people like Diss and I have what I call "single-point deal breakers" - child-free is one we happen to share. Some posters here apparently don't have these, and are apparently willing to "give it a try" with someone who is appealing enough, even though they will probably have an incompatibility down the road that can't be overcome.
I got screamed at yesterday for stating I would consider it a major lack of logic for someone who has a stance to get involved with someone who had a staunchly different take of the stance. The stance was having children, not exactly a what's for dinner question that can be negotiated? Sorry, not sorry, I would definitely say getting involved with someone who might want children when you DEFINITELY don't want children shows a lack of critical thinking and logic. People tried to come at me with you'll logic yourself to the singles ward of the nursing home, call me when you selected a partner on logic,etc.
My point is logic should not be cast aside when choosing who to date and more importantly who NOT to date. If you as a childfree person want to get involved with someone who wants kids? Fine, but you have no right to complain when you get dumped or are forced to make a tough decision of whether to have kids to keep them or not when you could have avoided that noise by not getting involved with someone who had a different take than you on such a crucial issue.
Alright CD, commence on telling me I'm nothing because I've never been in a substantial romantic relationship. Ain't nothing I've never heard before.
This isn't even about logic, it's about fundamentals. Being on the same page kids/no kids-wise, and also money management-wise are essential to a successful long-term relationship/marriage/partnership. Anyone who would scream at you for that is really out of touch, and asking for a failed relationship.
Just you wait, Diss...when you meet that special someone....your logic will be lost somewhere between your heart and knees, Lol
True. Many of us are waiting for that day to arrive in the OP's life. But he's right that in order for things to work out long term, both people need to be on the same page on this issue. That's just basic.
True. Many of us are waiting for that day to arrive in the OP's life. But he's right that in order for things to work out long term, both people need to be on the same page on this issue. That's just basic.
Yes - but if you are so convinced that almost every woman wants children that you pretty much swear off dating altogether - that's not necessarily a healthy thing.
Yes - but if you are so convinced that almost every woman wants children that you pretty much swear off dating altogether - that's not necessarily a healthy thing.
True. I didn't read the whole thread. If that's where the OP is coming from, he needs to relax. I wonder if the OP is making any progress dealing with his dad issues. He was getting some kind of counseling for awhile....
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