Why do people have a problem with me making LOGICAL dating decisions? (single, older)
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Miss out on happiness? There would be nothing that'd make me more miserable than having a kid to raise. Kids aren't a bad haircut you can just wait for the hair to grow back or a suit you can take back if you decide you don't want it. Once they are there, they are there. That is the reason why I won't even entertain dating someone who wants kids.
It was pretty clear by his post that he was referring to other qualifiers.
I look at the heart like a kid, yeah you may want it but is it good and/or right for you?
I don't think we always know what/who is right for us until we get there. All of the logic and planning in the world can go out the window at that point.
Agreed. I think OP would find life much more pleasant if he adopted a less hostile attitude towards the parenting/kids thing. I mean, its no skin off my back, really, but I find such an attitude to be a likely symptom of other unpleasant personality issues.
Very true.
There are many life choices that I personally wouldn't make for myself, but I don't feel or project hostiiity toward those to whom such choices appeal. They're just not for me. The inability to own one's preferences without denigrating those of others is a turnoff.
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If one has to go, love will be thrown out long before reason goes out.
That's a life not worth living, IMO. If I followed reason I wouldn't have pursued the career I did (few jobs, low paying, very hard to get) despite it being my passion. That would have been miserable.
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