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Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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I got screamed at yesterday for stating I would consider it a major lack of logic for someone who has a stance to get involved with someone who had a staunchly different take of the stance. The stance was having children, not exactly a what's for dinner question that can be negotiated? Sorry, not sorry, I would definitely say getting involved with someone who might want children when you DEFINITELY don't want children shows a lack of critical thinking and logic. People tried to come at me with you'll logic yourself to the singles ward of the nursing home, call me when you selected a partner on logic,etc.
My point is logic should not be cast aside when choosing who to date and more importantly who NOT to date. If you as a childfree person want to get involved with someone who wants kids? Fine, but you have no right to complain when you get dumped or are forced to make a tough decision of whether to have kids to keep them or not when you could have avoided that noise by not getting involved with someone who had a different take than you on such a crucial issue.
Alright CD, commence on telling me I'm nothing because I've never been in a substantial romantic relationship. Ain't nothing I've never heard before.
I got screamed at yesterday for stating I would consider it a major lack of logic for someone who has a stance to get involved with someone who had a staunchly different take of the stance. The stance was having children, not exactly a what's for dinner question that can be negotiated? Sorry, not sorry, I would definitely say getting involved with someone who might want children when you DEFINITELY don't want children shows a lack of critical thinking and logic. People tried to come at me with you'll logic yourself to the singles ward of the nursing home, call me when you selected a partner on logic,etc.
My point is logic should not be cast aside when choosing who to date and more importantly who NOT to date. If you as a childfree person want to get involved with someone who wants kids? Fine, but you have no right to complain when you get dumped or are forced to make a tough decision of whether to have kids to keep them or not when you could have avoided that noise by not getting involved with someone who had a different take than you on such a crucial issue.
Alright CD, commence on telling me I'm nothing because I've never been in a substantial romantic relationship. Ain't nothing I've never heard before.
Im not going to tell you that.
Logic is important.
There is also the "magic" factor of love, and some people will always believe (sometimes from experience) that you could be swayed to change your mind if you fall strongly for a woman, and if you also fall for her kids. It happens.
Plus people love to tease other people.
If you KNOW you don't want kids ever,then fine, stay away from women with kids.
Dissenter: I'm in complete agreement with you. Lots of women do exactly the same thing, and reject men because they are too short, or don't make enough money or live with their mother, among many other criteria. Men are allowed to have standards also.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I didn't scream at you, I simply stated that being attracted to someone and chemistry has nothing to do with logic. Falling in love has nothing to do with logic. If people were rationale, they would never fall in love. Thankfully, we're not rationale in that arena.
I then asked you how successful have you been doing using logic to fall in love. You haven't been, so it seems. So suggesting that as a course of action is not prudent.
I think people really underestimate here how hard it is to find that chemistry and fall in love. You don't case away a chance at love because there MIGHT be some fundamental compatibility difference. That's just nuts.
First of all..."Step Away From the C-D!".
You are who you are....and needn't feel obligated to apologize, explain yourself, or change.
Most of us here, are...just text on a screen.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by timberline742
I didn't scream at you, I simply stated that being attracted to someone and chemistry has nothing to do with logic. Falling in love has nothing to do with logic. If people were rationale, they would never fall in love. Thankfully, we're not rationale in that arena.
I then asked you how successful have you been doing using logic to fall in love. You haven't been, so it seems. So suggesting that as a course of action is not prudent.
I think people really underestimate here how hard it is to find that chemistry and fall in love. You don't case away a chance at love because there MIGHT be some fundamental compatibility difference. That's just nuts.
In that case, there WAS a compatibility difference, on a very critical issue. That ain't throwing away a chance at love, that is trying to avoid an inevitable war down the line.
I think the more important question is, why do you care so much what a bunch of anonymous people online think of your opinions? At the end of the day, it's not as big of a deal as you've made it out to be in your head. Perhaps a vacation from online might help you put things back in perspective?
I understand how you feel believe me. The problem is when you're dealing with people you can throw logic out the window. As I've stated on here, I was in a year and a half relationship with someone who initially had no desire to have children. She said her career was more important to her and she was not comfortable around kids. Well, that was good enough for me. Eighteen months later, she has a change of heart. It was a very difficult decision as we had moved in together and made plans. Not going to lie, it took a long time to get over and didn't get into another relationship for six years or so. You can take every precaution but there is no guarantee unfortunately.
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