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I think with a comment like, "I'd eat you for breakfast," tone would matter an awful lot. I might say that with disdain and contempt for some silly young ankle-biter of a boy, in the sense of "Aw...isn't that cute. Not a chance, kid."
Or I might say it with a little smile and a look in my eye that says, "Try me."
Frankly to the guys who moan about women flirting and hinting, and just want us to come out and say what's on our minds...while I do prefer to lay my cards on the table sometimes, there's definitely something to be said for a nice, innuendo-laden exchange where we're both tossing signals like that. It's fun, frankly. And I've been with a man who had no social sense, could not read social cues (like when someone would rather be set on fire than spend one more minute in your company listening to you jabber, and they are edging away with a look of faint panic in their eyes, and you just keep...on...talking...) and so in a way, playing the "hint, hint, nudge, nudge, say no more" game is a way of eliminating the ones who are going to be insufferable later.
Oh, and the men who can pick up on signals...are also probably better lovers.
I think with a comment like, "I'd eat you for breakfast," tone would matter an awful lot. I might say that with disdain and contempt for some silly young ankle-biter of a boy, in the sense of "Aw...isn't that cute. Not a chance, kid."
Or I might say it with a little smile and a look in my eye that says, "Try me."
Frankly to the guys who moan about women flirting and hinting, and just want us to come out and say what's on our minds...while I do prefer to lay my cards on the table sometimes, there's definitely something to be said for a nice, innuendo-laden exchange where we're both tossing signals like that. It's fun, frankly. And I've been with a man who had no social sense, could not read social cues (like when someone would rather be set on fire than spend one more minute in your company listening to you jabber, and they are edging away with a look of faint panic in their eyes, and you just keep...on...talking...) and so in a way, playing the "hint, hint, nudge, nudge, say no more" game is a way of eliminating the ones who are going to be insufferable later.
Oh, and the men who can pick up on signals...are also probably better lovers.
Insufferable is a good word for those who go on and on like that. I'm not much of a talker myself, so I do find it amazing that some people can talk endlessly, totally oblivious to the fact that the other person isn't digging it. It's just painful to wait for the person to run out of words. And you're afraid to say anything, because that might start them on a whole new dialogue. I shudder thinking about those times.
Where des one draw the line between these hints being, a tease, a real interest or just a show off because you can.
Those are games, say what's on your mind (I mean in a nice way not too crass) and move on. None of these oh wouldn't you know wink wink etc
Sometimes I think if you tell a woman something like 'I want to eat you' and deep down she would like that but could term you a dirty pervert if you would use the exact words to her. Instead hey lets play around it and I will would you up then go away....
Insufferable is a good word for those who go on and on like that. I'm not much of a talker myself, so I do find it amazing that some people can talk endlessly, totally oblivious to the fact that the other person isn't digging it. It's just painful to wait for the person to run out of words. And you're afraid to say anything, because that might start them on a whole new dialogue. I shudder thinking about those times.
Yes.
My recent ex, that I make reference to here often, could literally do that for DAYS ON END. And while I hate to be rude, I've learned that sometimes I have to actually just walk away from him, like go in the house and shut the door if he's in the garage, or get in my car and leave, even if he just keeps on talking.
Him: BLAHBLAHBLAH <inhale> BLAHBLAHBLAH
Me: I've got to go, I'm going to be late for work.
Him: I've got plenty of time, I don't have to be anywhere until 10. BLAHBLAHBLAH.
Me: No, I actually have to go, like now.
Him: I know, but BLAHBLAHBLAH
Me: OK, well. I'm leaving now.
*closes car door cutting him off mid-sentence*
He also used to say that he had no idea whatsoever when a woman was flirting with him. And since we split, he's desperately tried all sorts of dating efforts, and we used to sit in the garage for HOURS AT A TIME where I'd be listening to him go on about how much he wanted to hold this one chick's hand, and explaining nonverbal body language to him, and him dissecting the possible process to initiate physical contact before she "friend zoned" him.
EDIT: He is 48 years old.
I often wonder actually if he's got some kind of autism spectrum thing going on. But he refuses to see professionals about his mental or behavioral health.
I think with a comment like, "I'd eat you for breakfast," tone would matter an awful lot. I might say that with disdain and contempt for some silly young ankle-biter of a boy, in the sense of "Aw...isn't that cute. Not a chance, kid."
Or I might say it with a little smile and a look in my eye that says, "Try me."
Frankly to the guys who moan about women flirting and hinting, and just want us to come out and say what's on our minds...while I do prefer to lay my cards on the table sometimes, there's definitely something to be said for a nice, innuendo-laden exchange where we're both tossing signals like that. It's fun, frankly. And I've been with a man who had no social sense, could not read social cues (like when someone would rather be set on fire than spend one more minute in your company listening to you jabber, and they are edging away with a look of faint panic in their eyes, and you just keep...on...talking...) and so in a way, playing the "hint, hint, nudge, nudge, say no more" game is a way of eliminating the ones who are going to be insufferable later.
Oh, and the men who can pick up on signals...are also probably better lovers.
Being bad at reading signs doesn't correlate with being a bad lover.
Where des one draw the line between these hints being, a tease, a real interest or just a show off because you can.
Those are games, say what's on your mind (I mean in a nice way not too crass) and move on. None of these oh wouldn't you know wink wink etc
Sometimes I think if you tell a woman something like 'I want to eat you' and deep down she would like that but could term you a dirty pervert if you would use the exact words to her. Instead hey lets play around it and I will would you up then go away....
Yeah, that would probably get you dirty pervert.
Instead maybe dining at the Y, tipping the velvet or snack on crack (made me laugh first time I heard it). Muff diving is classic, but that's probably pervert territory now. Others are harmless, because unless you know specially the topic of discussion, you'd probably get a blank stare or huh?
I hope none of those are ban invoking. More amusing than anything. I laugh like a 6th grader hearing them all again.
Instead maybe dining at the Y, tipping the velvet or snack on crack (made me laugh first time I heard it). Muff diving is classic, but that's probably pervert territory now. Others are harmless, because unless you know specially the topic of discussion, you'd probably get a blank stare or huh?
I hope none of those are ban invoking. More amusing than anything. I laugh like a 6th grader hearing them all again.
Muff diving hahaha that was a good one, I have never heard of this one.
Yeah I'd like to introduce your milky way to my butterfinger (I actually know someone who used that) and he got lucky, apparently she liked that
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...... Still it makes the world go round I suppose LOL
