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Originally Posted by Mikelee81
I just heard the phrase not too long ago actually. I haven't seen a relationship like this yet where the man was respected. Either by the women he's with or the people around him.
I don't think "modernism" of culture has anything to do with it but the issue is more biological in nature.
No, if that phrase is being used, then there is certainly a lack of respect. You're right on that.
But the vast majority of relationships I see are very egalitarian in nature, people have really equal partnerships these days. At least among the professional and educated segment of the population.
But the vast majority of relationships I see are very egalitarian in nature, people have really equal partnerships these days. At least among the professional and educated segment of the population.
At least among the people you know.
Do you really think that you can make generalizations about the professional or educational status of those who don't have "really equal partnerships"?
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by mishigas73
At least among the people you know.
Do you really think that you can make generalizations about the professional or educational status of those who don't have "really equal partnerships"?
Reading is an increasingly problematic thing for you, as is your desire to try to pick stupid fights. Save if for people that want to talk about the fringes of society.
If you read, I specifically said:
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Originally Posted by timberline742
No, if that phrase is being used, then there is certainly a lack of respect. You're right on that.
But the vast majority of relationships I see are very egalitarian in nature, people have really equal partnerships these days. At least among the professional and educated segment of the population.
I see, I see, I see.
So pick your silly light fights with someone else and work on reading comprehension. Thanks.
Reading is an increasingly problematic thing for you, as is your desire to try to pick stupid fights. Save if for people that want to talk about the fringes of society.
If you read, I specifically said:
To be clear, I was responding to this statement of yours:
At least among the professional and educated segment of the population.
This seems to be a generalized statement about the population. It is a common (and very often erroneous) stereotype.
To be clear, we are not speaking about the "fringes of society". We are speaking of people of varied backgrounds who choose to be in relationships that are not "egalitarian". Doctors, lawyers, engineers, it runs the gamut.
And while we're on this subject of erroneous stereotypes, another has been mentioned on this thread- that those that choose to be in a relationship with a more dominant partner are not strong in and of themselves. Certainly that is the case for some, but it is definitely not true across the board. Not even close.
Most of the long-lasting relationships I've seen where there is a dominant partner have one thing in common- there is mutual respect and one party does not run roughshod over the other.
Oh, and in regard to the OP, shoot-em-up games have nothing to do with one being dominant or not.
I have noticed with past boyfriends including the one I am currently involved with being seen as tough and dominate is a huge thing. Sure they can vary in different ways and they can be more or less caring and understanding, but for example my current bf as well as other past boyfriends really love their shoot/kill and destroy video games. I know it may seem as a minor thing to complain about but to me it just seems like an adolescent male power fantasy, am I the only one?
At the risk of irritating plenty of people around here......
I have yet to see a man that is tough and dominant that plays video games at anything more than random/infrequent intervals. Video games and dominant are mutually exclusive. Just my two bits.
To be clear, I was responding to this statement of yours:
At least among the professional and educated segment of the population.
This seems to be a generalized statement about the population. It is a common (and very often erroneous) stereotype.
To be clear, we are not speaking about the "fringes of society". We are speaking of people of varied backgrounds who choose to be in relationships that are not "egalitarian". Doctors, lawyers, engineers, it runs the gamut.
And while we're on this subject of erroneous stereotypes, another has been mentioned on this thread- that those that choose to be in a relationship with a more dominant partner are not strong in and of themselves. Certainly that is the case for some, but it is definitely not true across the board. Not even close.
Most of the long-lasting relationships I've seen where there is a dominant partner have one thing in common- there is mutual respect and one party does not run roughshod over the other.
Oh, and in regard to the OP, shoot-em-up games have nothing to do with one being dominant or not.
I think it can work just fine when it's what both people want, especially when one is naturally more dominant and the other is naturally more submissive. Put two domineering people together and they'll likely be butting heads. Put two submissive people together and s--t doesn't get done. I think a lot of people have elements of both inclinations, and can incompatible with either "extreme".
I think it can work just fine when it's what both people want, especially when one is naturally more dominant and the other is naturally more submissive. Put two domineering people together and they'll likely be butting heads. Put two submissive people together and s--t doesn't get done. I think a lot of people have elements of both inclinations, and can incompatible with either "extreme".
Absolutely. As with anything else relationship-wise, compatibility is definitely key.
Your example of the need to be "dominating" is shooter games?
I was thinking the same thing.
It is a crazy leap in logic.
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