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what I notice is that guys DO look but they don't say anything. So this notion that we get hounded is just simply not true. I'm sure some guys may WANT to approach but the don't for various reasons.
Exactly. I think guys notice, they look, maybe they smile, but do they regularly come up in everyday situations and make conversation to the point of getting a number or asking women out? No, no, they do not. If a woman's not at a bar or someplace where approaching is expected, the likelihood of this happening is small.
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Awww, with a kiss from the right person, you'll become a princess.
Oh, he did that whole bike game wrong. He need to give up his bike. I ride a bike...That's not how you do it. As far as staring. I think everyone stares at everyone. But 3 years since last approach? That is really good. Sounds like you're in a good area.
Oh, believe me, I am not. It's a small town of 900. There's not much to do, a case of everyone knowing, or knowing of, everyone.And not known for a large selection / diversity.
Prior to that approach 3 years ago. The last approach while I was out and about, was around 7 years before it. lol
So, certainly not beating men off with a stick who are constantly approaching, as many seem to think is common for all women who don't look like Quasimodo.
I appreciate the compliment Teige...BUT I'll give you a play by play of what ACTUALLY happens when I go out:
My friends and I go out quite a bit when we're at school, and we go to the mall a lot.
One day in particular, we went to see a friend who worked there but he didn't get off for a while. We walked through the entire mall, and what I notice is that guys DO look but they don't say anything. So this notion that we get hounded is just simply not true. I'm sure some guys may WANT to approach but the don't for various reasons.
The type of person I am, I assume most guys are involved with someone due to my own personal experiences. I'm not complaining though. When I go somewhere I really just want to handle my business and leave.
That is a good thing. That's why I say you are fortunate.
...And you're in school. So you're likely quite young. You have the time and space to pursue some goals and build something really good for yourself. That is a blessing.
I myself am always on a mission...
But my experience is more like the hypothetical post that JerZ put with the kicking guys out of the way.
I have at least one person (mostly guys) try to stop me for something almost on a daily basis (some days I do get lucky and have a peaceful journey).
Oh, believe me, I am not. It's a small town of 900. There's not much to do, a case of everyone knowing, or knowing of, everyone.And not known for a large selection / diversity.
Prior to that approach 3 years ago. The last approach while I was out and about, was around 7 years before it. lol So an approach 10 years ago. With the recent being 3.
Oh, believe me, I am not. It's a small town of 900. There's not much to do, a case of everyone knowing, or knowing of, everyone.And not known for a large selection / diversity.
Prior to that approach 3 years ago. The last approach while I was out and about, was around 7 years before it. lol
So, certainly not beating men off with a stick who are constantly approaching, as many seem to think is common for all women who don't look like Quasimodo.
I still can't get my head around that!!!!
If I walk on the street where I am in central London for 10 minutes I'd see nearer 9000 people!!! LOL
My heart goes out to you my love in terms of dating
You know, getting back to a bit more seriousness here...I agree with this, actually. Guys do look. I never took that to mean I was special and/or they "wanted" me, though, due to what Aurelia ^ is saying here. It seems (seems...I don't know for sure) that it's more a case of: guys seem to tend to just look around and check women out overall in a visual way as a sort of natural thing without necessarily thinking of them as someone to ask out.
If that makes sense.
So...that's still not an approach and it may not even be interest beyond "nice (whatevers)" or...whatever.
I don't know, just a thought. Anyway, the bottom line is that it would be nice to think getting looks means we're attractive but I just don't think of it that way because it appears so indiscriminate and sort of cold/assessing.
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Exactly. I think guys notice, they look, maybe they smile, but do they regularly come up in everyday situations and make conversation to the point of getting a number or asking women out? No, no, they do not. If a woman's not at a bar or someplace where approaching is expected, the likelihood of this happening is small.
Yes, that's exactly how I feel too.
Just because a person may seem like they are staring at you, there could be anything going on in their heads. They could be thinking about work, what they want to eat, or they could be worried about something. The fact is....some folks often look THROUGH others when they have a lot on their minds.
Just because a person may seem like they are staring at you, there could be anything going on in their heads. They could be thinking about work, what they want to eat, or they could be worried about something. The fact is....some folks often look THROUGH others when they have a lot on their minds.
Yeah. In my case, it's probably not because I am so hot, and they're checking me out. 99% of the time, if someone is staring at me, it's because they can't tell if I am black, white, or mixed.
Some aren't shy to walk up and ask. So I really can't pay too much mind to anyone staring. Because, what else is new? lol It's mainly an annoyance. I hate it. But all you can do is try to ignore it, if possible.
So, staring isn't approaching. Nor does it mean you're getting checked out for your hottness. lol
Exactly. I think guys notice, they look, maybe they smile, but do they regularly come up in everyday situations and make conversation to the point of getting a number or asking women out? No, no, they do not. If a woman's not at a bar or someplace where approaching is expected, the likelihood of this happening is small.
I guess this explains the deafening silence when most women go out in public. I don't know where this idea that women are overwhelmed with male attention as soon as they step out the door comes from. TV? Movies? Certainly not real life, with a few exceptions, depending on the woman.
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I guess this explains the deafening silence when most women go out in public. I don't know where this idea that women are overwhelmed with male attention as soon as they step out the door comes from. TV? Movies? Certainly not real life, with a few exceptions, depending on the woman.
It comes from when you are a guy and you go out with female friends that they get approached by other guys more often than not.
We can't see what happens to them when we're not there.
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