I have feelings for my best friend and it's hitting me hard.

[ItsRick24]

No, no, and did I say NO?

I've been there. Guess I was just lucky. Had a FWB quasi-relationship with someone, determined that it couldn't go further. She found someone, as did I. We're both in relationships now and happy with our respective S/Os.

[weezerfan84]

Originally Posted by ItsRick24

No, no, and did I say NO?

I've been there. Guess I was just lucky. Had a FWB quasi-relationship with someone, determined that it couldn't go further. She found someone, as did I. We're both in relationships now and happy with our respective S/Os.

I had something like this blow up in my face as well. Was seeing a woman who I liked, but I still wanted to keep my options open, so I kept spending time with my FWB too. Well, when the woman I liked ended things with me, I started to pursue my FWB. The only problem was that she recently started to see a new guy. Fast forward 5 years and they're both happily married and with kids. No point in juggling an FWB if it's not transitioning into a full blown relationship. Where you're at now, with a relationship that has the potential to be exclusive, I would drop the FWB. Just because you still have feelings for her, doesn't mean you have to explore those feelings.


I have women from my past that I have a soft spot for. Deep down I know that pursuing these women would only lead to me being even more confused and likely more hurt. Don't chase after a woman who's not reciprocating your feelings. Chase after the woman that is receptive of your advances.

[ironpony]

Well when I saw I am still hanging out with the FWB, me and the FWB are strictly platonic friends as she has had a bf for a while now.

We are just friends and nothing more, but I find it hard to advance towards the new woman I'm seeing.

[Auraliea]

Only you can figure out how you should deal with these things, OP.