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Good for you. But for most people it would be lying. Pretending they are interested in something just to try to convince someone they have something in common. To me, the end does not justify the means.
He might find that he loves gourmet cooking. I didn't take up fly fishing just to get a boyfriend, I wanted to learn to fish. Boy did I reel one in.
Yes I am suggesting this because it works. And I still fly fish by the way.
How about joining Habitat for Humanity? Theres plenty of women there who would like to swing a guy's hammer. Doing something to help others says you are a good guy.
Absolutely. I think hobbies and joining groups (sports, special interests whatever) is a great way to meet people. however, it is a great way to meet people who are most likely interested in relationships rather than just hooking up (which is what I got from the OP).
I love to cook and have been in photography for a long time. Both of which seem to gather interest from women... at least the ones I've known love the personal attention they get when I take portraits of them... followed by a night of wine and roasted prime rib. lol
There are not-unattractive women out there who would love to usher you into manhood. Have you tried mentioning on your profile that you are "inexperienced" and looking for a female "guiding hand"? I bet that would bring some action to your Inbox.
[Standing by for your reason this can never work...]
This.
This would get you laid.
At your age, most women expect that you know your way around the block, and will be pretty disappointed, UNLESS they know upfront, that you're inexperienced. There would be plenty of women who will accept that challenge.
Are you really suggesting this? Why the heck would I do something I have zero desire to do to meet someone, and I would just drop it the second I did.
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Good for you. But for most people it would be lying. Pretending they are interested in something just to try to convince someone they have something in common. To me, the end does not justify the means.
Welcome to the "making excuses" club!
Those of us who are romantically challenged are always told we have to put ourselves out there; to start living our life, if we want to meet people. And, if we react the way you just did, we're accused of making excuses, spending too much time playing video games or on the internet. Generally, not living our life to the fullest, as measured by some internet stranger. But, the truth is that not everyone likes going to church, going to bars... or cooking, knitting, and fly fishing.
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Welcome to the "making excuses" club!
Those of us who are romantically challenged are always told we have to put ourselves out there; to start living our life, if we want to meet people. And, if we react the way you just did, we're accused of making excuses, spending too much time playing video games or on the internet. Generally, not living our life to the fullest, as measured by some internet stranger. But, the truth is that not everyone likes going to church, going to bars... or cooking, knitting, and fly fishing.
I'm not making excuses because I have no problem meeting people to date. I'm certainly not going to sit at home playing video games or something. I'm out, social, and engaged in society thoroughly. I'm just not going to do something I have zero desire to do to try to meet more people. Not when I can go on OKC, tinder, bumble, and do it that way... and meet some great people doing so.
But for most people it would be lying. Pretending they are interested in something just to try to convince someone they have something in common. To me, the end does not justify the means.
It happens all the time?!!
I spent half my 8th-grade year pretending to like KISS so this kid named Scott would like me. And it worked LOL.
It's not as nefarious as you make it sound. There's nothing wrong with acting a little more enthusiastic about baseball, even if you could care less, if you know a guy you're interested in is really into it.
I'm not saying you should buy season tickets, but the point is to extend your chances to talk to them so you CAN find common interests.
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It's not as nefarious as you make it sound. There's nothing wrong with acting a little more enthusiastic about baseball, even if you could care less, if you know a guy you're interested in is really into it.
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If someone pretended to be into something to try to connect with me, and I found out it was a ruse, then I would 100% be turned off once I found out they had misled me. There is no reason for such games. Just be yourself, and it will work, or it won't.
I'm not making excuses because I have no problem meeting people to date. I'm certainly not going to sit at home playing video games or something. I'm out, social, and engaged in society thoroughly. I'm just not going to do something I have zero desire to do to try to meet more people. Not when I can go on OKC, tinder, bumble, and do it that way... and meet some great people doing so.
I'm sure you can find a group for every interest out there... I don't think the poster implied that you have to force yourself to participate in a group that you have no interest in. One of the great things about meeting in such a group is that the ice is already broken... everyone in that group has a common interest from which to approach and converse.
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