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I've seen that or something close, such as "someone who is a good partner when it comes to cooking and housekeeping". Those things being mentioned in a profile make me wince.
Oh God!
Dollars to donuts he will then be segueing her into his nurse in an other 8-10 years.
Oh well, you know what...we all look for different things...we all want different things. I do think overall, with just a very few exceptions, if you're willing to look outside the box sometimes, there is a lid for every pot.
I pass if her profile:
-has all selfies (a couple are fine)
-emphasizes how busy she is all the time
-speaks bitterly at all of people or a specific someone from her past
-if the primary message I get from the profile is merely that she likes to 'hang out'
Another- "looking for someone to brighten my life and make me laugh because life is sh$$ sometimes".
I saw that one time, sounded like a guy looking for someone to be responsible for his happiness, yikes, run run run.
Also, pictures of their car. Please. I don't care if you drive a McLaren. And if someone is looking for a women who will respond based on a photo of a car...well they probably can't be helped.
Ya know, I am not a car person. Never have been, never will be. I drive a Grand Caravan, and I use and abuse it, it hauls stuff and it's comfortable. That's my jam.
But there is one kind of sportscar, that when I see one, I....I have the irrational impulse to get out at the stop light and like...fondle the car. Not the driver! Just the car. It's those curvy old Corvettes, with the round tail lights. Some of the Stingrays, stuff out of the 70's...they just make me feel funny. I don't give a damn about their stats, specs, or performance. It's just the body shape of them. Sexy.
Also, pictures of their car. Please. I don't care if you drive a McLaren. And if someone is looking for a women who will respond based on a photo of a car...well they probably can't be helped.
I am a car person and I still think it's a no-go.
It is either a middle class car that they are proud of and you wonder why. Or it is a luxury car with a douchebag owner. It is especially funny when on all the other pictures the background doesn't look like they actually have any $$ - it is most likely a car they sat in once in their life. Or they write something in their profile of being tired of all the gold diggers - LOL, okay. You WANT to attract gold diggers, then you complain about it ...
I once answered to a guy who was posing in front of a very cheap, 10 year old Mercedes with a statement like "looking for someone to drive around in my luxury car" and I wrote "so you have another car?" He called me a few names I cannot repeat
It is either a middle class car that they are proud of and you wonder why. Or it is a luxury car with a douchebag owner. It is especially funny when on all the other pictures the background doesn't look like they actually have any $$ - it is most likely a car they sat in once in their life. Or they write something in their profile of being tired of all the gold diggers - LOL, okay. You WANT to attract gold diggers, then you complain about it ...
Yeah, it's the "look at all the stuff I have!" in the same breath as "don't you dare be attracted to me because of my stuff!" And they say chicks send mixed signals.
Yeah, it's the "look at all the stuff I have!" in the same breath as "don't you dare be attracted to me because of my stuff!" And they say chicks send mixed signals.
This definitely is odd. I wonder if it's a self-fulfilling prophecy for some. They "lure" the girlies in with their stuff...or think that's what they're doing (some women may actually be giving them a chance despite the showiness/attitude), then they fret endlessly that women only want men with lots of bucks.
Another show stopper for me would be a woman who has very expensive tastes that I could not support on my salary. This is of course hard to see from a dating profile, but once or twice I have see a list of her favorite restaurants in a profile and they turned out to be expensive Manhattan places. A few other times, after I would contact a women and we started talking about the first date, she would send me list of her favorite restaurants. A few times they were really upscale and a lot more that I could afford...
It has been years. For me, the following usually represented a hard pass:
- "no kids" (I didn't have kids, but I wasn't interested in dating anybody who specified no kids)
- big sports fan
- smoker
-Blatant, on-display right wing sensibilities
Other stuff, more negotiable.
This. There may be other things, but definitely the above. Profiles with car photos, boat photos, shirtless bathroom pics, and the like, just never came up in my matches by highest match %.
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Yup... you will. I think you made my point for me.
They just say that to get you. In the end they can't do that stuff with two kids. Or if they do they are a terrible parents. So they will home with the kids while you do your passion.
Lol. It's not that difficult to engage in one's interests and passions with children, especially when they're in school, or away from home, asleep, down for naps, and so forth. Certain passions are absolutely more difficult with younger children, but there are numerous passions that are solitary in nature or don't come with high expenses and a lot of time spent away. Andplusalso, both my husband and I have passions we share with our older kids, like, most of them.
Another show stopper for me would be a woman who has very expensive tastes that I could not support on my salary. This is of course hard to see from a dating profile, but once or twice I have see a list of her favorite restaurants in a profile and they turned out to be expensive Manhattan places. A few other times, after I would contact a women and we started talking about the first date, she would send me list of her favorite restaurants. A few times they were really upscale and a lot more that I could afford...
Were those women in professions where they can afford to frequent in those places without men paying for them?
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