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Yep funny how when I was 16 and sneaking into bars I felt there weren't enough of these girls, but now I realize there are way too many of these girls. as they are one night stand material but not girlfriend/wife material. and sadly they are usually the ones who are the ones who otherwise are in the best position to be girlfriend/wife material as they tend to be single and "child free"(early 20's) or single/divorced "kids grown up and moved out" (late 40+'s).
And if you actually try to date or get feeling for a "woo girl"(not the term I use for them) it will only end in tears.
Meaning say you come across a dating profile that draws you in, they seem to have many things in common with you, same likes, interests, political views, taste in music/movies, similar hobbies etc etc..
There photos seem up to date and you find them attractive etc etc
Every thing seems perfect until you run across one thing that ruins it in your eyes,
something mentioned in their about me: (usually mentioned somewhere towards the end).
Or something in their stats that is a deal breaker for you.
Or something in the settings of some or most of their photos gives you pause.
A few examples for me are:
1. if I see in there stats they are looking for "just friends" or "casual dating/just dating nothing serious/no commitment( different sites/apps word it differently)"
2. if I see in their stats they have a job/career that traditionally does not allow much time for a relationship, typically jobs that keep them away a lot where they either have to do a lot of traveling or just plain long hours. I prefer women who clock out after 8 hours so we can hang out more.
3. If I see in their stats they have young children at home.
4. If every other photo in their profile is them in a bar getting toasted(not the girl you take home to mom).
5. If every other photo is of here in front of a different exotic landmark(and the timestamps span only a few years most recent being a few months ago), I'm thinking this girl will have me broke or sitting home alone most of the time. (I've traveled a lot also but my timestamps would average 5 - 10 years apart as an adult. and since I was a military brat growing up most would be childhood photos lol).
Back when I was dating and wanted a relationship, I kept browsing if the profile said any one of the following three things:
-Chivalry isn't dead.
-I've been hurt before.
-Nice guys finish last.
None of those phrases indicate anything good. Also, with the rise of Trump, I think I would automatically cross out anyone who identified as a conservative or Republican. That's not where my values lay or the way to improving society.
Had one guy who made it through all my screens and was looking mighty fine until I saw that he said that the man should be the head of the household. I was cranky that day and wrote back to ask him what made him think I needed someone to head my household, being a successful professional and grown-ass woman who, you know, actually owns her own house.
My point being even if she did not expect me to pay for stuff if someone likes to travel that is not going to change just because she met me, so either I would be spending alot of time alone or I would have to travel with her, and no woman is gonna want to pay her boyfriends way so I would be going broke trying to keep up.
And I have trouble spending large sums of money on things I have nothing to show for after the money is spent.
Also, with the rise of Trump, I think I would automatically cross out anyone who identified as a conservative or Republican. That's not where my values lay or the way to improving society.
Way too extreme, imo. I can understand not dating someone that loves Trump, but there are plenty of conservative/republicans that are normal people and don't like Trump.
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And I have trouble spending large sums of money on things I have nothing to show for after the money is spent.
Nothing to show for it? Ok, so, you don't value experiences? This makes sense for a dating criteria with a person. I, personally, don't care about stuff much at all. I care about having experiences. That is what I want to spend money on. Putting it into things does nothing for me. It's just stuff. I would want to date someone that values that as well.
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