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I mean I wanted to be nice gf and show I care and am supportive but no I didn’t
It's OK to be rude to people who are trying to take advantage of you. Notice that they have no reciprocal concern about being a "nice" bf, You need to be firm, then stop going out with them, and block them.
I like the response one poster gave, "Why would you need my money? I'm not an ATM", or better, "Why are you asking me for money? I'm barely covering my expenses and student loans. I was going to ask you for some help, actually, but I thought that would be too rude."
Another option, "Oh, I'm sorry to hear you're not able to live within your means. I'm looking for a guy who's practical and a good money manager, like me. I'm afraid you and I aren't compatible."
Being "nice" to people out to use you can put you at risk for you financial, or even physical, safety. It's bad programming you've absorbed from parents/society, that women are supposed to be doormats, and always "nice". It's dangerous programming. Learn to stand up for yourself and to draw boundaries. Your life could depend on it, someday. If you need to, get a few counseling sessions on this, so you can role-play with the counselor, and practice saying "no", and dealing with manipulative scenarios. Or find a workshop on "Assertiveness Training".
Why are you claiming girlfriend status when your post makes it sound like these were nothing more than casual first or second dates? Honestly, the fact that any of them asked you for $$ at all should throw up a huge, red flag. Do a better job of screening before you go out. Select those that are employed, preferably full-time. Nice + caring doesn't equal handing out money like you are a lending officer @ a bank. In short, they are using you.
She said she met them at work, so presumably they're employed full-time.
I’ve dated about 4 guys and they have all asked me for money even when just starting the relationship couple days weeks into the relationship they ask for money I don’t know maybe it’s me that attracts these types of men but they have jobs and that’s how met at work
Hate to break it to ya but you're an easy mark. Toughen up girlie and stop dating guys from work. Your reputation has been sealed.
Another option, "Oh, I'm sorry to hear you're not able to live within your means. I'm looking for a guy who's practical and a good money manager, like me. I'm afraid you and I aren't compatible."
They must think you have it. Women in m life usually ask me for money. Maybe we both need to date more up-market....LOL
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