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Uhhh....? Really?
So, what has been the practice in the past with you two? Or is the friend's friend the only one he's ever commented on in that way?
He does it all the time. He's even said things to me like "she's the most beautiful woman I've seen" about a girl in a bookstore, or "she's really really really hot and smart" (a work colleague), etc, etc.
It used to hurt my feelings but I decided to ignore it and have been ok with it.
It used to hurt my feelings but I decided to ignore it and have been ok with it.
You're in denial.
You have mentioned many times in this thread that things he does and says are "no big deal." But they are a big deal, cumulatively. They combine to make you feel uncertain about his feelings for you. Ignoring that doesn't actually negate it.
If this is the same boyfriend as in your other thread, you said back then that you were going to dump him before that Mexico trip.
He does it all the time. He's even said things to me like "she's the most beautiful woman I've seen" about a girl in a bookstore, or "she's really really really hot and smart" (a work colleague), etc, etc.
It used to hurt my feelings but I decided to ignore it and have been ok with it.
That’s what I thought too, then he started “liking” only the photos of his Facebook friends with revealing clothing. Pretty soon I had a lightbulb moment, realized how disrespectful this was towards me as his gf, felt really insignificant, and moved out.
You’ll look back and wonder why you thought your feelings weren’t important, and why you had to play a mind game (with yourself) to change your initial reaction of: “that’s not very nice...” to: “I’m OK with that.” It’s exhausting.
Not the first time he says something like that. He says "I'm just very open and say what's on my mind, It's normal to wonder weather you find someone hot. I bet you do it all the time, you just don't tell me. I'm transparent".
Sounds like he's got down how to manipulate things so he always seems to be in the right by being "honest" - does he really seem like a keeper? How honest can YOU be before he gets ticked off - I think it would be good to know.
He does it all the time. He's even said things to me like "she's the most beautiful woman I've seen" about a girl in a bookstore, or "she's really really really hot and smart" (a work colleague), etc, etc.
It used to hurt my feelings but I decided to ignore it and have been ok with it.
I think you need to fight fire with fire, in order to see how he really feels about that behavior.
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Is he right? Do you do it all the time, silently? Maybe you should become more transparent, and see what happens. I'm serious. If you don't break up with him first, that is. If he asks you about it, tell him you've decided to be more transparent.
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Sounds like he's got down how to manipulate things so he always seems to be in the right by being "honest" - does he really seem like a keeper? How honest can YOU be before he gets ticked off- I think it would be good to know.
He also said that it's important for him to able to have physical contact with his female friends without being questioned about it.
LOL!
Oh, Yeah! Totally believable!
"He also said that it's important for him to able to have physical contact with his female friends without being questioned about it" IMHO, there is a huge difference between giving a good friend a quick hug goodbye and necking with them in a photo booth, or French kissing, or rubbing their privates, etc. etc. I wonder which one your BF means?
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If this ever comes up again, you can respond, "Oh, I totally understand! I love getting hugs from my guy friends. They're like big teddy bears to me. I'm glad we understand each other on this score. "
Oh no! Is this the same guy who watches porn, then says he's not a sexual person, so he can't get it up for you? (He can only get it up for himself, with porn.) Are we talking about the same guy? Say it ain't so, OP!
If it's the same guy, the solution is clear: El Dumpo.
If it's the same guy, OP, he's being deliberately emotionally abusive of you. And what's with the photo booth chick? Apparently he can get it up for her? I guess you're not beautiful enough?
F that, OP! Start looking for your own place, and saving up for 1st/last month's rent & deposit. And while you're looking for your own place, be sure to drool loudly over hot make actors when you're watching TV, hot waiters when you're out to dinner together, and hot pedestrians. Become transparent as glass. Report back to us.
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Totally believable! 
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Is this the same guy who watches porn, then says he's not a sexual person, so he can't get it up for you? (He can only get it up for himself, with porn.) Are we talking about the same guy? Say it ain't so, OP!
Report back to us. 
