Again, as I've said to other women on here about their relationship woes, YOU must not think too highly of yourself, meaning not having very good self-esteem to keep staying w/ him & putting up w/ it. He treats you like $#--.
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Originally Posted by nadineblack
He does it all the time. He's even said things to me like "she's the most beautiful woman I've seen" about a girl in a bookstore, or "she's really really really hot and smart" (a work colleague), etc, etc.
It used to hurt my feelings but I decided to ignore it and have been ok with it.
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What woman actually LIKES this?! You just put up w/ it because he won't stop. How disrespectful can he be?! He might as well say, "I love her huge t!t$" or "She's got the type of @$s I like." He probably says how gorgeous, hot, intelligent, etc. they all are a LOT more than he tells YOU because there are more women out there in the world & just 1 of you. You're only 1 person whereas he's complimenting them all...the gal at the cafe, the one at the bookstore, the one at his work, etc., etc., etc. & for him to voice that OUT LOUD to YOU is purposefully to rub it, hurt you, & make you feel inadequate. There's no other reason for him to say those things out loud.
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Originally Posted by BirdieBelle
You're in denial.
You have mentioned many times in this thread that things he does and says are "no big deal." But they are a big deal, cumulatively. They combine to make you feel uncertain about his feelings for you. Ignoring that doesn't actually negate it.
If this is the same boyfriend as in your other thread, you said back then that you were going to dump him before that Mexico trip.
Looks like things haven't gotten much better.
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I agree. For some reason, you keep telling yourself & others who question you that he's, "not that bad", but he is. That's why I say you must not think too well of yourself since you seem to think you deserve this pice of trash, waste of space b@$----.
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Originally Posted by NJBoy3
He texted her. Then got drunk with her. We all pretty much have an idea how the evening ended.
He wants to be able to have physical contact with female friends. And gets defensive about it.
He kept a photo of himself with another girl.
He's pulling your chain..
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Yes to this too! When a man & a woman have been drinking & all their inhibitions fly out the window & they have all night to do what they want, no one's there to stop them, etc. what do you think will happen? You think they're going to stay good & he'll remember that he has a girlfriend & read books to each other all night?! I think not! The clothes are flying off.
These topics I've brought up are everything a GF w/ a horrendous BF doesn't want to face up to & acknowledge. You hope that if you try to block it out of your mind, that it won't bother you. He does way too much that's completely disrespectful, smart ass, & horrendous for you not to think about it. Pack up & be gone while he's gone so he won't know what hit him & don't leave any notes, etc.
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