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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I figured "Hey, Ill give her another shot (shoot her an email...again), maybe she'll be more flexible in the height department or whatever department".
"Hey, I see you're giving this one more try...well, you're timing is perfect, because I'm in the same boat" (Wont' mention anything about having contacted her last year).
It boggles my mind that you think this would be a good idea. If I rejected someone 10 years ago, 5 years ago, one year ago, or 2 mos ago. No, not interested is still, no, not interested.
"Trying again" is like saying "hey, maybe you're a bit more desperate now, want to give it a go?" and shows a lack of respect for their decision.
It boggles my mind that you think this would be a good idea. If I rejected someone 10 years ago, 5 years ago, one year ago, or 2 mos ago. No, not interested is still, no, not interested.
Well, that's you...but some people evolve over enough time.
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"Trying again" is like saying "hey, maybe you're a bit more desperate now, want to give it a go?" and shows a lack of respect for their decision.
Nope. Bad bad idea.
Hey, they are the ones that are saying "Trying this again". Never hurts to try. She may not even have remembered me by then.
This just proves there's a finite amount of single women in the area...and chances are I will be sending emails to them again...a year later.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Yes, it does hurt to TRY AGAIN sometimes. Doing the same thing time after time and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. If you don't want to appear, well, you know, you wouldn't do that. Your choice though. It will get you no where and all you're actually doing is reaffirming their decision to say no the first time. That appears to regularly be a hallmark of your actions though, not respecting other's positions and decisions.
Yes, it does hurt to TRY AGAIN sometimes. Doing the same thing time after time and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. If you don't want to appear, well, you know, you wouldn't do that. Your choice though. It will get you no where and all you're actually doing is reaffirming their decision to say no the first time. That appears to regularly be a hallmark of your actions though, not respecting other's positions and decisions.
That's just it, they never said no. They just didn't respond.
Typically they don't answer, so there's no way of knowing for sure unless they actually tell me "I'm sorry, I'm not interested". Otherwise, I go for it.
In fact it HAS worked for me...they admittedly said that they get swamped in emails from men that the choice picks simply get overlooked...esp. if they haven't logged in in a couple of days. Even scored dates with them.
So there goes your theory of "doing the same thing over and over again".
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Well, it's a mix of repeat emails to the same women from the year before, and the new ones. Typically they don't answer, so there's no way of knowing for sure unless they actually tell me "I'm sorry, I'm not interested". Otherwise, their fair game.
In fact it HAS worked for me...they admittedly said that they get swamped in emails from men that the choice picks simply get overlooked...esp. if they haven't logged in in a couple of days. Even scored dates with them.
So there goes your theory of "doing the same thing over and over again".
"Fair game"
"Choice picks"
"Even Scored dates"
If that's your definition of "working", well I have no words. You have VERY different standards.
If that's your definition of "working", well I have no words. You have VERY different standards.
Now you're just desperately grabbing at straws, picking apart whatever verbiage I use. Nice try though. You going to correct my grammar and spelling next ?
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Now you're just desperately grabbing at straws, picking apart whatever verbiage I use. Nice try though. You going to correct my grammar and spelling next ?
I'm desperately grabbing at straws?
You're the one that repeatedly contacts the same people in the hope of "scoring dates", not me.
And everything you've said just re-confirms what I stated; loud and clear. It doesn't counter it, at all. I'm sure you're bright enough to realize that despite your argumentative nature. Good luck with the "success".
Don't forget the return veterans that start off their headline, "Back at this" or "One more try". When these ladies were women you've contacted last year or a few months ago...and they are back at again, and clearly announcing so.
I figured "Hey, Ill give her another shot (shoot her an email...again), maybe she'll be more flexible in the height department or whatever department".
"Hey, I see you're giving this one more try...well, you're timing is perfect, because I'm in the same boat" (Wont' mention anything about having contacted her last year).
But nah...they just wind up being a bunch of recycles.
I would want to punch you directly in the face if you did this to me.
YES I remember you contacting me a year ago. YES I remember not responding to your message then. And YES I continue to think we are not a good match. And NO I am still not interested.
That's just it, they never said no. They just didn't respond.
Jesus. Someone has to tell you that not responding IS a NO?
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Typically they don't answer, so there's no way of knowing for sure unless they actually tell me "I'm sorry, I'm not interested". Otherwise, I go for it.
In fact it HAS worked for me...they admittedly said that they get swamped in emails from men that the choice picks simply get overlooked...esp. if they haven't logged in in a couple of days. Even scored dates with them.
So there goes your theory of "doing the same thing over and over again".
Yay. You "scored" dates. Ick.
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