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I think most women over 40 have busy careers and honestly typing is really not how I prefer to communicate. I would rather talk on the phone. It's better to gauge someone's personality vs email or texting...both of which are very impersonal.
Agree.
I eventually withdraw from people who want to text me all the time. It's too impersonal and I don't like pecking on teensy tiny little keys. I really think it's stupid to communicate that way, for the most part.
I feel the same way about sexting. I don't understand it. My generation actually had sex with each other person. Not through text messaging.
I wouldn't date any man who wanted to engage in these things for very long. It's creepy to me. I can have a short internet chat but after a few messages are exchanged, if he didn't want to meet in person, I'd stop talking altogether and move on to the next guy.
Last edited by PriscillaVanilla; 10-20-2019 at 04:26 PM..
A woman will send a message asking a man if he has any plans, with the intent that maybe they can make some plans.
You told her you had plans, and then you didn’t invite her along, even though she said she was staying in. She was staying in, with no plans, that’s why she texted/messaged you.
Yeah. Now she feels stupid. He thinks she can’t have a conversation, but she sent him a message and kicked the door wide open: “Here I am, want to do something? I do, or I wouldn’t have messaged you to tell you I have no plans AND ask what you were doing.”
ETA: Yes, I’m projecting, but not about feeling stupid, because the guy “gets it” every time. I wonder if this is one of the many reasons men say online dating doesn’t work for them? they aren’t paying attention. It has nothing to do with a woman’s age, except for as women get older and “over 40” they may be a little more brave. They will message you and ask you what you’re doing. Instead of waiting.
I'm a divorced guy in my 40s looking to date women in the same age bracket. I have been on and off the various dating sites and I have started to notice a trend that women in this age bracket just don't know how to carry a conversation online. This happens both when I start the conversation and in cases where they have started the conversation. I'll give you an example:
Woman: Hey...any fun plans this weekend?
Me: Yeah, going out for drinks for my friend's birthday tonight. How about you? I noticed in your profile you mentioned you are a teacher. That must be a very rewarding job.
Woman: Staying in
And that's the end of the conversation. She did not even acknowledge my comment about the job which I tried to use to enhance the conversation. She simply answered my question about the weekend, and did not ask me any follow up questions. Lots of 1 or 2 word answers with nothing left to keep the conversation going.
I had this same scenario play out with 3 different women just this weekend. Have women in this age range just been out of the game for so long that they forgot how to have a conversation? Or maybe just not used to online dating in general?
Fyi...never give an example of dialog as message board dwellers WILL find a reason to pick it apart.
He's basically saying how monosyllabic these responses can be in responses and gives an example on how it can be like pulling teeth to get an answer out of them
A smart man will endeavor to talk to a woman on the phone instead of texting, and then if interested, meet the woman in person, as quickly as reasonably possible, and not stay behind the online or texting barrier. That is if dating is actually the goal as opposed to having a random occasional pen pal or phone pal.
Just to clarify, this was my first conversation (ever) with this particular woman. Are you saying I should have offered a date right off the bat?
Once she said she was staying in, you should have countered with an offer to meet soon. It’s best to have a safe comfortable meeting place in mind, if she’s unsure. Starbucks is a good beginning.
After being online for a while, it becomes easy to figure out when you have a "chatter" on your hands. And you sound like one of them. You would be #1. These are guys who are only online just to chat and nothing more.... as that kind of limited connection is just enough for them, but they will never admit this truth to the woman.
I'm a divorced guy in my 40s looking to date women in the same age bracket. I have been on and off the various dating sites and I have started to notice a trend that women in this age bracket just don't know how to carry a conversation online. This happens both when I start the conversation and in cases where they have started the conversation. I'll give you an example:
Woman: Hey...any fun plans this weekend?
Me: Yeah, going out for drinks for my friend's birthday tonight. How about you? I noticed in your profile you mentioned you are a teacher. That must be a very rewarding job.
Woman: Staying in
And that's the end of the conversation. She did not even acknowledge my comment about the job which I tried to use to enhance the conversation. She simply answered my question about the weekend, and did not ask me any follow up questions. Lots of 1 or 2 word answers with nothing left to keep the conversation going.
I had this same scenario play out with 3 different women just this weekend. Have women in this age range just been out of the game for so long that they forgot how to have a conversation? Or maybe just not used to online dating in general?
Have you went tried going down a notch in age to see if its pervasive with younger women as well? I'm a woman and I've noticed men from ages 20s-40s online doing pretty much the same thing that you've posted of the women. Apparently, there are a lot of people who are incapable of carrying on a stimulating online conversation.
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they aren’t paying attention. It has nothing to do with a woman’s age, except for as women get older and “over 40” they may be a little more brave. They will message you and ask you what you’re doing. Instead of waiting.
