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LOL so your saying the very traits that got panties wet in my youth, will cause a 30+ woman to run home and sit on a towel until the feeling passes? lol
The feeling won't even happen in the first place because women in their 30s and older know that unstable behavior is not sexy or romantic. We grow out of any foolish notions that jealousy, temper tantrums, possessiveness, destructive behavior, excessive risk-taking, rampant intoxication, and all of that "bad boy" stuff often associated with musicians and other creatives etc are anything but signs of someone who needs to grow up and/or get some psychiatric help.
Wait, OP, are you that poster who has some sort of condition where you can only sit in the dark and can't be out in the daylight? He used to post here a few years ago and shared some of his art/music which skewed heavily to emaciated, half naked anime girls and heavy industrial noise. I remember he was from Ft Worth or someplace like that.
He used to wonder why he couldn't get dates too, but no one could convince him it was his nocturnal lifestyle and intensely dark obsessions.
Exactly. It’s disingenuous to say that a musician works the same hours his partner is asleep. Are most musicians performing between 11pm and 7am?
Performing between 11 to 2, sure (in some genres), but that's not when they start. They're their early doing sound checks, loading in, etc. So no, they're going to work right when their partners are getting home. And getting home when, or a couple of hours before, their partners are getting up.
I overheard a lady in a starbucks say that they would never date a musician but I didn't hear why so now I'm curious to see if anyone else wouldn't date one, because I am one. What makes musicians unappealing to you? Also I've met several women in the past 5 months since I started playing and doing shows again that once they find out or I mention my side hustle seem to view it as a strike against me..... WHEN DID THAT HAPPEN????
I mean prior to leaving music on the back burner to raise my family, being a musician attracted women like bears to honey, these days even the women who still want to date me view it as atleast a yellow flag.
Don't get me wrong, if I wanted to get laid after a show I have my pick just like the old days, but that was not my thing even in my 20's, but in my 20's it was a point in my favor even in forming real relationships, these days not so much. And I understand that playing music won't bring um in once past 30, but why does it push them away?
Just read only your OP post so far. I've always known society to view musicians like the whole, "starving artist" stigma because unless they have a name for themselves, it's financially unpredictable, etc.
I overheard a lady in a starbucks say that they would never date a musician but I didn't hear why so now I'm curious to see if anyone else wouldn't date one, because I am one. What makes musicians unappealing to you? Also I've met several women in the past 5 months since I started playing and doing shows again that once they find out or I mention my side hustle seem to view it as a strike against me..... WHEN DID THAT HAPPEN????
I mean prior to leaving music on the back burner to raise my family, being a musician attracted women like bears to honey, these days even the women who still want to date me view it as atleast a yellow flag.
Don't get me wrong, if I wanted to get laid after a show I have my pick just like the old days, but that was not my thing even in my 20's, but in my 20's it was a point in my favor even in forming real relationships, these days not so much. And I understand that playing music won't bring um in once past 30, but why does it push them away?
I think what you're seeing here is people growing up. Women in their twenties may see a musician as a rogue or someone who plays by their own rules or is not bound by the confines of everyday life, into a young woman in Earth early till the 20s that might be exciting.
Women in the fifties probably want more stability not saying musicians aren't stable it sounds like you're quite stable. But look at the women who say this see how old they are and find out what their interest is in dating and I'm betting you'll find that the women that say this one a lot more stability and they think because of stereotypes regarding musicians that they must necessarily be unstable.
This is the problem with deal breakers, if you have too many of them and you're unyielding you might pass up on something really great even though it might cause you to have to learn to accept a flaw or two. I know when I met my person that there were some deal breakers and I had to overlook them and I'm glad I did.
OP, eventually you’re just going to have to get a real job.
Trust me, I’ve been down this road before.
Me too. l was in the arts for 13 yrs something l'd dreamed of doing my whole life when the time was right.
Well the timing wasn't exactly right but early 30s l finally tried my field.
l actually missed the more normal lifestyles myself. Even envied friends that would just come home from work and that was that for the day. They weren't weighed down or burdened 24 7 with an artists mind and life and neither were their loved ones.
Eventually l left it and went back to my own business and more just an everyday work/life, living normality, income , all of it. lt's been so nice to be my kinda normal again ever since never looked back. My normal ain't exactly normal but it's 10x a more peacefully minded life than what being in the arts was for me. Buttt, l'd lived my dream and tried my though and done what l needed to do.
I think what you're seeing here is people growing up. Women in their twenties may see a musician as a rogue or someone who plays by their own rules or is not bound by the confines of everyday life, into a young woman in Earth early till the 20s that might be exciting.
Women in their fifties probably want more stability not saying musicians aren't stable it sounds like you're quite stable. But look at the women who say this see how old they are and find out what their interest is in dating and I'm betting you'll find that the women that say this one a lot more stability and they think because of stereotypes regarding musicians that they must necessarily be unstable.
This is the problem with deal breakers, if you have too many of them and you're unyielding you might pass up on something really great even though it might cause you to have to learn to accept a flaw or two. I know when I met my person that there were some deal breakers and I had to overlook them and I'm glad I did.
Right, and unfortunately my generation and prior usually lived up to those stereotypes, and even though these days those guys are in the minority they are the ones people remember once they have met or dated one.
Right, and unfortunately my generation and prior usually lived up to those stereotypes, and even though these days those guys are in the minority they are the ones people remember once they have met or dated one.
Well if you are a musician you have to live up to at least some of them I imagine it's part of the life.
I think it's one of those deal breaker things that keeps people single far too long.
Their loss.
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