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Women know that the person who files first has the upper hand. the remaining party, is now forced to play defense for the remainder of the divorce proceedings. which is not a good position to be in, believe me.
You speak an awful lot on behalf of women and what they think/want/know. Perhaps I have been misguided by your username and you are not a man?
Women know that the person who files first has the upper hand. the remaining party, is now forced to play defense for the remainder of the divorce proceedings. which is not a good position to be in, believe me.
You speak an awful lot on behalf of women and what they think/want/know. Perhaps I have been misguided by your username and you are not a man?
I work with 85 Young Alpha Women, and have for the last 6 years, I have learned a lot, that most guys aren't in the position to know. Being one of the few Men there, they act and talk, as gals only do when there are no Guys around. so I may know them better than they know themselves.
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I work with 85 Young Alpha Women, and have for the last 6 years, I have leaned a lot, that most guys aren't in the positon to know. Being one of the few Men there, they act and talk, as gals only do when there are no Guys around. so I may know them better than they know themselves.
dear friend i hear you but they dont. they wont. facts and figures and experiences are of no avail, its all about him. unless of course you wana have a rational conversation about the topic, then you got to talk to a mother whose son has been crucified in the divorce courts.
Women know that the person who files first has the upper hand. the remaining party, is now forced to play defense for the remainder of the divorce proceedings. which is not a good position to be in, believe me.
Not all women who file for divorce believe that. I'm sure there are women who file thinking the odds are against them, maybe because they signed a prenup or because they don't have the financial resources for a long legal battle. With any legal action, the person initiating isn't always at an advantage. Think about all the frivolous lawsuits people file against companies, the government, doctors, etc. The person suing knows they have a long shot at winning, but they do it in anyways.
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I work with 85 Young Alpha Women, and have for the last 6 years, I have leaned a lot, that most guys aren't in the positon to know. Being one of the few Men there, they act and talk, as gals only do when there are no Guys around. so I may know them better than they know themselves.
They may be more candid around you, but don't kid yourself. I'm sure there are things they keep to themselves. And if you think you know them better than they know themselves, then you're just deluding yourself.
Not all women who file for divorce believe that. I'm sure there are women who file thinking the odds are against them, maybe because they signed a prenup or because they don't have the financial resources for a long legal battle. With any legal action, the person initiating isn't always at an advantage. Think about all the frivolous lawsuits people file against companies, the government, doctors, etc. The person suing knows they have a long shot at winning, but they do it in anyways.
They may be more candid around you, but don't kid yourself. I'm sure there are things they keep to themselves. And if you think you know them better than they know themselves, then you're just deluding yourself.
The first thing my Ex was told by her attorney, was to empty out all of my accounts, and my safe deposit box. she had plenty of money to file, I had not nickle one for my defense. She had methodically planed her moves for months. the whole time never giving me a clue. ---As for point two, women don't even know what makes them tick, but a good cry is usually involved. Then all is right with the world again, till next month.
Because when they do it is the only thing left that can be done. Typically they have exhausted all other possibilities.
I once read an article that made some sense.
In effect it gave the example of a woman who is unhappy in the marriage. She tries to have a conversation about her unhappiness, but the man only hears and sees the attempts at fixing the relationship as nagging and criticism. He gets angry and completely misses the points she is trying to make.
Eventually, the woman stops trying to get him to listen to her. The man figures now that she's stopped "criticizing", all is well! There is no longer any problem. In truth, the woman has given up. She sees that the marriage is doomed. In time, she files for divorce.
The man does not see this coming, yea though it has been in front of his face for a long time. He is shocked and appalled that this divorce has come "out of nowhere".
I didn't make this up and I'm not saying it's always the case, but I have seen this play out many, many times. In one recent case, the woman kept asking her husband for more attention--he was a come-home-have-beer-and-watch-TV kind of guy, never went to the kids' activities, never went out on dates with his wife, etc. The kids grew up and she decided to file for divorce and make a life for herself that was more than fetching beer and sandwiches for him.
His response was that he wanted her to see a doctor because he is sure that she is having some kind of hormonal problem.
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