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Old 07-11-2013, 02:43 PM
 
Location: Sunshine Coast, QLD
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Several of the worst bullies from my HS days are dead now. They died young either thru accident or illness. do I feel good about it? No of course not. But I also don't feel the least bit bad either. They got what they deserved. Gotta love karma!!
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Old 07-12-2013, 12:04 PM
 
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Several of the worst bullies from my HS days are dead now.

Don't be so sure. Bullies never die -- they just become predatory tow-truck drivers.
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Old 07-12-2013, 12:29 PM
 
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One became a nice cop. The rest I avoid. They've not apologizing to you, they'rethey're doing it to get past guilt. For these people, high school was fun. For their victims, it was a reason to consider suicide.
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Old 07-12-2013, 01:23 PM
 
Location: Sioux Falls, SD area
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In my early grade school years I was overweight and thus a target. By junior high I was big, but no longer fat. I discovered there wasn't a kid in my class that I couldn't whip and thus the bullying stopped. I was lucky that I could stop the bullying by my physical abilities alone.

I will never forget it though. I found myself standing up for friends in high school who still were targets. This was easy to do against guys that were bullies, but impossible to do when dealing with the mean girls when they're pack mentality takes over. I could stand up for myself by verbally turning it back on the b*t*h*s, but it got old and they never changed all through school. Fortunately they were small in numbers and most of the worst were in the class ahead of me.

The ones that got picked on the worst were a couple girls. In grade school I even said nasty things a few times to them just to fit in with the ringleaders that I regretted later. I make a special effort to be nice to these two when I do see them just because of my guilt, even though I didn't do it very many times. I know one of them has forgotten that I may ever have been a part of it and we're good friends. The other gal was so scarred by the school years that she's defensive with everyone to this day.

There are still some girls in my class who like to somewhat try to keep the "pecking orders" in place even after 40 years. It's pretty subtle now, but I did notice this shadow at our class reunion last year.
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Old 07-14-2013, 11:38 AM
 
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I never thought I would see this topic. It's like going back in time and seeing my younger selfish version. I don't want to highjack the thread as I want to write my story from a former mean girl's side.

To answer the question, some bullies might apologize. I never issued a formal apology but I've been on great terms with that person for a long time; years now. I guess that would count as an apology.
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Old 07-14-2013, 11:48 AM
 
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I know one group of school bullies who never apologize, school teachers. Some of them enjoy being the bully they were when they were students. It wasn't just the gym teachers. A good example is from Pink Floyd's The Wall. The teacher going out of his way to insult and belittle students in class. Because my parents raised me well, I didn't jump up and start beating up the teacher, but I did fantasize about doing it.
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Old 08-25-2013, 03:13 AM
 
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The best revenge you can ever get on a school bully is success.

Yes, although it's true some people seem to never change from high school, even decades later, it's much more often the case that the people who were nobodies in high school go on to be pretty successful and/or wealthy and/or famous in adult life, while the people who were big shots in high school go on to work as cashiers at Wal-Mart like that one person mentioned earlier in the thread.

That's just the nature of life and the universe. Would you rather have a wonderful childhood/adolescence and burn out early, spending 40 or 50 years working at Wal-Mart or changing oil or whatever, or would you rather suffer during grade school and high school, leave your ****ty hometown, and become wildly successful maybe 10 or 15 years after high school somewhere else?
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Old 08-30-2013, 08:56 PM
 
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Sadly this boy will never hear any apologies.

Hundreds attend funeral for bullied Greenwich teen - NewsTimes

I found it rather nauseating to read a such drivel as "The entire football team attneded wearing their red jerseys."

I am the parent of a bullied child. I think his parents are more gracious than I, I'd have buried my child with only his family at his gravside. Nice touch with sending his remains back to Poland.
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Old 08-31-2013, 11:08 PM
 
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I had something different happen to me in school. Kid was not a bully but when my dad was in the hospital when I was in 9th grade he said he hoped he died. This was 27 years ago. I never forgave him. He recently tried to friend me on Facebook. I rejecred it. That is something as a 14 year-old that can scar someone for a long time
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Old 09-04-2013, 09:44 AM
 
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Hmmmm, the one's I've bumped into have acted like we were best friends in the brief moments we were passing by on the street or in the store. Always a very unsettled feeling has come over me in these instances.

One negative experience was running into a former bully, she was my cashier at a discount store, she started the conversation off with "Hey, I remember you, you're the girl we used to punch! You look different now". Again, didn't really enjoy that convo, and didn't get an apology either, she just kept reminicing over how awesome it was to beat me as she bagged my items. Off course I stood their nodding along saying "Yeah...." because I instantly reverted back to silent victim mode. Man if I could only see her again I'd handle that conversation much better!
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