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Scared to get fired, scared that women think they hit on them, and what I get to hear often is "you probably get compliments from everybody so I don't need to give you one" which means I hardly get any ever from any guy.
if she spends a lot of time on her make-up and clothes, then there is a very good chance that she looks good all the time. It's just not worth the effort to say "you look great." day after day after day after day.
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If they aren't romantically involved they are probably afraid it will be taken (or twisted) the wrong way.
Those sexual harassment classes....
Absolutely true in the political correct world we live in. No way I'm telling any woman (unless my wife or a good friend) anything about her appearance.
If they aren't romantically involved they are probably afraid it will be taken (or twisted) the wrong way.
Those sexual harassment classes....
Exactly....You never know when a woman will welcome, or when it's deemed "inappropriate". I choose to keep my mouth shut and nose to the grindstone, when it comes to complimenting. Well, everyone except my wife, who I'm sure appreciates my new technique for dealing with the opposite secks.....It wasn't always this way, in more ways than one.
Scared to get fired, scared that women think they hit on them, and what I get to hear often is "you probably get compliments from everybody so I don't need to give you one" which means I hardly get any ever from any guy.
Oh-eve, I'm sure you are a pleasant person in appearance and in your demeanor. So don't take this the wrong way, please.....but your gender have put themselves in a corner on this. Truly respectful, intelligent men are scared to death to say the wrong thing. The only guys that will give the compliments are pigs, or an occasional nice guy, TAKING A BIG BIG RISK. Rare indeed.
At work, specifically, men will be afraid of being accused of harassment.
Even if you don't take the workplace harassment issue into consideration, there is a whole list of people at work who people (both men & women) would think twice about paying a compliment:
-An underling (for fear of appearing to favor one underling over the others)
-Anyone senior to you (for fear of looking like a brown noser)
I am a woman and don't pay compliments about physical appearance to anybody at work either.
As a woman, I'm not so worried about men accusing me of harassment, but I am afraid that they would take it as a minor flirtation...which, no thank you, do not want. Not at work.
Outside of work, I don't randomly tell random guys "Hey there, I really like your hair!" or "Wow, I really like your outfit!"...because I don't want to come off as being flirty unless I'm deliberately trying to be flirty. And even when I set out to be flirty, I don't say stuff like that anyway...sounds like a cheesy line and/or desperate.
I mean, think about it. If some strange lady walked up to you in the cereal aisle at the grocery store and said, "Wow, I really like your hair!"...wouldn't you think she was a giant dork?
I'm sure a lot of guys have similar concerns about complimenting a stranger on their looks.
Guys don't want to come off as looking corny or desperate either.
At work, specifically, men will be afraid of being accused of harassment.
My reason also. However, I do compliment women who have obviously lost a significant amount of weight. They have worked hard on losing that weight, be it for health or self-image reasons. I know that when I was losing weight, it was one of the most difficult things I have ever done. For someone who has succeeded, an attaboy and encouragement is much appreciated. Otherwise, I keep my mouth shut.
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