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I didn't miss the point of the thread. Based on the information you've provided, it's unlikely that you can afford the type of walkable community you're looking for. It seems you don't realize that.
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Omg you have NO CLUE what our finances are! 😂
Nope, I don't. But that's why I said "based on the information you've provided" - which included mentions of not being able to afford the COL of Somerville or Cambridge, a budget of 550ish, and being a single income family (dog walking doesn't count).
Nope, I don't. But that's why I said "based on the information you've provided" - which included mentions of not being able to afford the COL of Somerville or Cambridge, a budget of 550ish, and being a single income family (dog walking doesn't count).
You seem to think I'm attacking you. I'm not.
You assume a lot don't you?
You see where that got you before in this thread?
Nope, I don't. But that's why I said "based on the information you've provided" - which included mentions of not being able to afford the COL of Somerville or Cambridge, a budget of 550ish, and being a single income family (dog walking doesn't count).
You seem to think I'm attacking you. I'm not.
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Originally Posted by GeePee
You assume a lot don't you?
You see where that got you before in this thread?
Where did it get me? I made a reasonable assumption and offered solid advice.
Keep in mind that this OP, despite being rather long-winded, has communicated very poorly throughout most of the thread.
As an example, if she had simply written the following earlier in the thread, there would probably be 60 less posts and 7 less fights.
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Originally Posted by russiandressing
Hold on to your seat, redplum33. I’m about to blow your mind.
When the baby comes I plan to return the DD favor to my wife who will have been driving my ass around for 9 months at that point. So, yup - I’d drive. But let’s not get things twisted, I’d still enjoy 1 or 2 beers.
Instead, all we heard was some ridiculous nonsense like OMG I'M NOT GONNA STOP LIVING MY LIFE!!!!
This is kinda my frame of thinking. Warren and Bristol would hopefully give us most of the things we want and we’d still have grandparents somewhat proximal. I haven’t been to either of these places myself so we’re going to plan to take a couple of drives down that way! Thanks for dodging all the crap and putting together a thoughtful response - I appreciate you!
If someplace feels right, you will know it. If you make a mistake, there is nothing keeping you from moving again.
Where did it get me? I made a reasonable assumption and offered solid advice.
Keep in mind that this OP, despite being rather long-winded, has communicated very poorly throughout most of the thread.
As an example, if she had simply written the following earlier in the thread, there would probably be 60 less posts and 7 less fights.
Instead, all we heard was some ridiculous nonsense like OMG I'M NOT GONNA STOP LIVING MY LIFE!!!!
I mean, pretty much everyone who has responded has understood what I’m trying to achieve - with the exception of you and two other judgmental ignoramuses.
Yes, your assumption that I’m a drug dealer is very reasonable. Small side business could be: winter snow plowing, any one of a million various shops on Etsy, web design, music lessons, making custom cornhole sets, dog walking, etc. I just rattled off six small side businesses of people that I know personally. But yes, drug dealer - very reasonable. LOL.
You are dramatic, conflict-seeking, condescending, and not wanted here anymore. You are not contributing to this thread and are, instead, going out of your way to stir things up. Go back to your mundane, alcohol-free life and drown in the sorrows of your miserable marriage. How’s that for making assumptions based upon the “information provided”?
I mean, pretty much everyone who has responded has understood what I’m trying to achieve - with the exception of you and two other judgmental ignoramuses.
Yes, your assumption that I’m a drug dealer is very reasonable. Small side business could be: winter snow plowing, any one of a million various shops on Etsy, web design, music lessons, making custom cornhole sets, dog walking, etc. I just rattled off six small side businesses of people that I know personally. But yes, drug dealer - very reasonable. LOL.
You are dramatic, conflict-seeking, condescending, and not wanted here anymore. You are not contributing to this thread and are, instead, going out of your way to stir things up. Go back to your mundane, alcohol-free life and drown in the sorrows of your miserable marriage. How’s that for making assumptions based upon the “information provided”?
Your personal attacks are further evidence of your extreme immaturity that has been painfully evident since your first post.
I apparently struck a nerve when I pointed out that your budget doesn't seem to be in line with your desires. Here's the reality: that's how it is for nearly everyone. It's not something to be ashamed of. And it's not a valid reason to lash out at people.
Most of the 30-something year old couples with kids that I personally know do exactly that.
I can name quite few (mostly guys) who would love that, but cannot see that marriage/relationship lasting too long for one. I'm not talking about the occasional night out with the guys (or girls), that is totally healthy and normal. But when you think about how the average working parents with kids might get "out" one or two nights a week, the idea of using those invaluable "date nights" to spend time on one's own while the other stays home with the kids (alternating back and forth)...sounds a little bizarre to me. Maybe I'm totally misunderstanding, but that's the impression I got from that poster who mentioned doing such.
Now getting back to the topic, I think this actually brings up a very valid point.
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When someone gives the impression that they can live anywhere they want to, and also mentions that only one of them has a job and the other has a "side business", I think it's reasonable to assume that the "side business" must be lucrative. Add to that the secretive nature of the "side business"...and...well...walking dogs didn't exactly come to mind.
I acknowledged at the very beginning of the thread (and others have since agreed), that what you seem to be seeking is a college town type of community. Being that you want access to both Stoughton and Saratoga, NY; the first default goes to Amherst or Northampton. Now with that said, have you any idea how many people are hanging around that neck of the woods looking to achieve their dream by providing some "unique" service that apparently "nobody has ever thought of before"? That is something you really need to take into consideration. That and other similar areas are full of over-educated individuals all scrambling for that small piece of the pie in what local service economy exists.
Excuse me for getting a little defensive re. Mansfield, and still don't think you are being fair. It's just hard to take seriously one who describes the Trattoria Della Nonna as "mediocre". It's largely considered excellent and I've known people who've driven considerably out of their way to eat there. Catman's is a fun little bar (Jimmy's is not the only game in town). Café on the Common has excellent breakfasts. Plenty of good stuff there that's walkable.
... the first default goes to Amherst or Northampton. Now with that said, have you any idea how many people are hanging around that neck of the woods looking to achieve their dream by providing some "unique" service that apparently "nobody has ever thought of before"? That is something you really need to take into consideration. That and other similar areas are full of over-educated individuals all scrambling for that small piece of the pie in what local service economy exists.
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"? That is something you really need to take into consideration. That and other similar areas are full of over-educated individuals all scrambling for that small piece of the pie in what local service economy exists. 
