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Old 04-18-2012, 07:13 PM
 
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OP. I suggest you consider the online dating sites. You seem very well written and should come across in a most excellent fashion. I bet you will do just fine once you meet. The internet thing will make the meeting part so much easier.

Good Luck.
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Old 04-18-2012, 07:15 PM
 
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The more women-blaming excuses you [not the OP but all the angry men in this forum] seek to explain why you're not meeting them, the less likely it is you will ever get involved with a woman. That kind of bitterness and misogyny seeps out of you and turns women off. Here's a hint: stop blaming your not being to meet a woman on "golddiggers" or "being too into themselves." If you come off as pissed off at women or misogynistic, you will NEVER get play. Too many angry guys out there. WE'RE the ones who get hassled on the subway and catcalled on the streets. We have every right to keep our distance until we trust you a little more.

Do you like sports? Join a social sports league. Do you speak French? Do you bike? Find a Meetup group that does those things. What do you like to do? Start doing it. The happier and less anxious you are, the more likely you will attract people of all kinds--including women.
I'm not a man and I'm not into other women either. Joining groups doesn't do anything and neither does being confident. The females in New York seem to think they're too good for anyone to touch them and they're in no position to have their noses in the air. Hence, why do you think there are so many single women in NY?
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Old 04-18-2012, 07:16 PM
 
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The men are like that as well.
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Old 04-18-2012, 07:28 PM
 
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I mean meeting women here is def harder than most places but I don't really have a problem, maybe it's the OP's style or the way he approaches women.

Women here care more about the way you dress and your confidence than in most other places.
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Old 04-19-2012, 10:56 AM
 
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you have to sell them something.
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Old 04-19-2012, 01:27 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles, CA
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*sigh* why is it so hard to meet [good, decent, respectable] men in NYC...
Because the confident, attractive, self assured men have learned the futility of long term relationships.

A woman becomes attracted to a man because of his confidence and attractiveness. They date for a couple years. The woman encourages the good man to move in with her. He does this with the intent that this will last. He goes to work, helps with domestic responsibilities, is faithful, appreciates the relationship and subconsciously becomes nice all of the time.

The woman loses her respect for the man because he is too nice. She now wants an a$$hole. She becomes resentful. The man becomes resentful because he made personal sacrifices for a relationship that the woman no longer appreciates. They fight. The relationship ends and is painful for the man.

He vowes never to repeat. A year passes and the man repeats the process with another woman. That relationship ends.

The good man reaches the conculsion that it is more fulfilling and less stressful to be himself and have multiple casual encounters with no emotional involvement. Women complain that there are no good men.
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Old 04-19-2012, 01:52 PM
 
Location: Ridgewood, NY
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Because the confident, attractive, self assured men have learned the futility of long term relationships.

A woman becomes attracted to a man because of his confidence and attractiveness. They date for a couple years. The woman encourages the good man to move in with her. He does this with the intent that this will last. He goes to work, helps with domestic responsibilities, is faithful, appreciates the relationship and subconsciously becomes nice all of the time.

The woman loses her respect for the man because he is too nice. She now wants an a$$hole. She becomes resentful. The man becomes resentful because he made personal sacrifices for a relationship that the woman no longer appreciates. They fight. The relationship ends and is painful for the man.

He vowes never to repeat. A year passes and the man repeats the process with another woman. That relationship ends.

The good man reaches the conculsion that it is more fulfilling and less stressful to be himself and have multiple casual encounters with no emotional involvement. Women complain that there are no good men.
There is definitely truth to this and it's why I stay single nowadays...
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Old 04-19-2012, 01:54 PM
 
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Because the confident, attractive, self assured men have learned the futility of long term relationships.

A woman becomes attracted to a man because of his confidence and attractiveness. They date for a couple years. The woman encourages the good man to move in with her. He does this with the intent that this will last. He goes to work, helps with domestic responsibilities, is faithful, appreciates the relationship and subconsciously becomes nice all of the time.

The woman loses her respect for the man because he is too nice. She now wants an a$$hole. She becomes resentful. The man becomes resentful because he made personal sacrifices for a relationship that the woman no longer appreciates. They fight. The relationship ends and is painful for the man.

He vowes never to repeat. A year passes and the man repeats the process with another woman. That relationship ends.

The good man reaches the conculsion that it is more fulfilling and less stressful to be himself and have multiple casual encounters with no emotional involvement. Women complain that there are no good men.
a lot of time women demand a man to be this or that when however they dont really offer (do/say) much in return. Like i want a guy who is funny and this and that but dont expect that they should also have something to offer

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Old 04-19-2012, 02:17 PM
 
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they all want the same man who is too hard for them to find.
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Old 04-19-2012, 03:39 PM
 
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Man I don't know where in NYC you are, but from what I can see there are simply TOO many gorgeous women. I'm engaged and love my woman more than anything, but I have to say that the temptation is hard. When ever my friends and I go out around East Village, 14 th st, and anywhere lower Manhattan I feel the fuking poltergeist because my head is spinning everywhere. And to make things worse, it seems like the women here have the uncanny ability to sense when you're taken and they go even harder after you. Half the time that I'm out I need one of those squirt bottles to keep my mouth from drying out. If anything, NYCs problem is that they have TOO MANY choices.
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