My friend who is turning 40 has invited to a "all white attire party" and I don't think I can attend (husband, female)

[TheShadow]

Why in the world is a 40 year old asking his friends for cash?? The only gift I give my adult friends is a bottle of wine or take them out for drinks or dinner. I would not bring a gift other than his favorite beverage..bottle of wine, liquor or a cold pak.

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by TheShadow

Why in the world is a 40 year old asking his friends for cash?? The only gift I give my adult friends is a bottle of wine or take them out for drinks or dinner. I would not bring a gift other than his favorite beverage..bottle of wine, liquor or a cold pak.

Yes it sounds so weird.

[Fiona13]

LOL. The last time I got cash for my birthday, I think I was 16 and it was from my grandmother.

[another_hot-day]

Maybe you could bleach some old pants you have?

[FBJ]

Update

The party is tomorrow and I made the decision not to go so not sure how he will feel but oh well. lol

[imagineAA]

Originally Posted by FBJ

Because inside the Invite under preferred gift it says he prefers cash.

omg. How rude to state anything about gifts.

Is this person throwing himself a party? Rude again.

You aren't obliged to give a gift.

If you can't afford the clothes and would feel out of place with just the white shirt, then decline the invitation. I would.

Or you could be a smartass and wear your white shirt with a pair of white boxers or sweats from Walgreens.

It's not like you'll be the rudest person at the party. Sounds like the guest of honor/host wins that title.

[imagineAA]

Originally Posted by Forever Blue

He wants cold hard cash! I wish everyone would each bring 1 penny.

Good one!

And to make it perfect:

• paint the penny white
• put it in a white envelope
• attach a blank white card
• put a sticky note on it that says, "Sorry you can't read the great birthday card I got you. It's signed in white chalk."

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by imagineAA

omg. How rude to state anything about gifts.

Is this person throwing himself a party? Rude again.

You aren't obliged to give a gift.

If you can't afford the clothes and would feel out of place with just the white shirt, then decline the invitation. I would.

Or you could be a smartass and wear your white shirt with a pair of white boxers or sweats from Walgreens.

It's not like you'll be the rudest person at the party. Sounds like the guest of honor/host wins that title.

Yes I was saying I never heard anyone throwing their own birthday party and thought it was kind of weird. And the request for cash made it even more weird and hope he is not looking foolish tomorrow because only a few people showed up.

[ElizaTeal]

Originally Posted by FBJ

I'm going to send him a message on facebook to call me so I can find out how important is this attire to be all white because I don't have it in my budget

Exactly how did the invitation read? Is he really demanding a gift?

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by ElizaTeal

Exactly how did the invitation read? Is he really demanding a gift?

It says a all white bash for my 40th birthday party and please no sneaks.

Preferred gift-cash