My friend who is turning 40 has invited to a "all white attire party" and I don't think I can attend (grandmother, feel)
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Im Sure it's going to cost more to throw then what he is going to get. Maybe a midlife crisis? I don't know. I think throwing yourself a party, demanding a specific dress code of things most people don't have (white pants, shoes especially for a man?), asking for cash gifts and inviting people you haven't really talked to in 10 years...and using Facebook for a invite...all seem narcissistic and juvenile. Like a sweet 16 or something. I don't get it.
Im Sure it's going to cost more to throw then what he is going to get. Maybe a midlife crisis? I don't know. I think throwing yourself a party, demanding a specific dress code of things most people don't have (white pants, shoes especially for a man?), asking for cash gifts and inviting people you haven't really talked to in 10 years...and using Facebook for a invite...all seem narcissistic and juvenile. Like a sweet 16 or something. I don't get it.
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Im Sure it's going to cost more to throw then what he is going to get. Maybe a midlife crisis? I don't know. I think throwing yourself a party, demanding a specific dress code of things most people don't have (white pants, shoes especially for a man?), asking for cash gifts and inviting people you haven't really talked to in 10 years...and using Facebook for a invite...all seem narcissistic and juvenile. Like a sweet 16 or something. I don't get it.
It wouldn't surprise me if he conned someone else into footing the bill. Probably went out and got "sponsorships" to get all the food and booze donated.
The problem I am facing is that I only have a white shirt not the pants and shoes which I believe is expected for this type of party. On top of that he prefers everyone who he invited to the party to bring him MONEY as a gift. So it's no way I can go out and purchase shoes and pants and give him money for a gift when I still have to deal with my own financial situations. I still have to buy some summer clothes and finish paying off my credit card, go on dates, and save money.
So I am not sure how he will take me telling him I won't be able to make it but I just can't and was not expecting to be invited to a party where I have to buy clothes to attend and bring a gift. And let's say I do find whites shoes and pants to go with my shirt, that would be a outfit I would not be able to wear the rest of the summer which would not be wise spending. Anything I buy to wear in June I want to be able to wear in July and August too so it looks like I will have to miss his party which may end our friendship.
he is forty and looking for cash? Really? I don't think I would be handing out cash to a grown assed man. cash is for kids trying to get a start, not middle aged men.
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