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Honestly BingCherry, the reason you probably get asked so much when you will marry and have kids is probably because you are in a serious relationship, not because everyone thinks you are "over the hill" at age 26. If you were 26 and single, I doubt anyone would say anything at all.
Thanks sb! Maybe that's why. I don't mind the innocent questions at all, but when it's consistently--each time I see the person--and they start pressuring, practically, I find it ridiculous and I posted this thread because I just wanted to see if this is common or an isolated event.
Unfortunately, so many women took a blow to their self esteems and made this thread about themselves when there were no personal attacks coming from me.
Anyway, I think this thread has expired it's use, so I'm going to get back to work for a little while .
Thanks sb! Maybe that's why. I don't mind the innocent questions at all, but when it's consistently--each time I see the person--and they start pressuring, practically, I find it ridiculous and I posted this thread because I just wanted to see if this is common or an isolated event.
Unfortunately, so many women took a blow to their self esteems and made this thread about themselves when there were no personal attacks coming from me.
Anyway, I think this thread has expired it's use, so I'm going to get back to work for a little while .
I think it is common for people in their mid-20's to think about getting married and having kids. I think it is common to feel isolated when you are the "only one" who doesn't want to at the moment. I think being asked about it makes the feelings worse. This will most likely pass. You will eventually get married and have a baby. then you will have to put up with people asking you when you are going to have another one
No one called you a f***k up but if you want to make things up that's your issue.
You're not into the OP's head; you don't know who she was referring to. The term f***up was inappropriate. Period.
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Thanks sb! Maybe that's why. I don't mind the innocent questions at all, but when it's consistently--each time I see the person--and they start pressuring, practically, I find it ridiculous and I posted this thread because I just wanted to see if this is common or an isolated event.
Unfortunately, so many women took a blow to their self esteems and made this thread about themselves when there were no personal attacks coming from me.
Anyway, I think this thread has expired it's use, so I'm going to get back to work for a little while .
So it is just one person. I thought that might be the case.
You're a good little deflector, bingcherry. You attack people's choices, and come up with some psychobabble to put down those who disagreed with you.
Thanks sb! Maybe that's why. I don't mind the innocent questions at all, but when it's consistently--each time I see the person--and they start pressuring, practically, I find it ridiculous and I posted this thread because I just wanted to see if this is common or an isolated event.
Unfortunately, so many women took a blow to their self esteems and made this thread about themselves when there were no personal attacks coming from me.
Anyway, I think this thread has expired it's use, so I'm going to get back to work for a little while .
Lol, my self esteem is just perfect.
I'm not the one worrying about why people question my life choices and stressing about my goals.
You're not into the OP's head; you don't know who she was referring to. The term f***up was inappropriate. Period.
So it is just one person. I thought that might be the case.
You're a good little deflector, bingcherry. You attack people's choices, and come up with some psychobabble to put down those who disagreed with you.
You know I almost always agree with you but you are wrong here. I didn't go back to look but didn't you say you got a degree, worked for 13 years, and had your kids in your late 30's? The OP is talking about people having babies early and with no education. how does that possibly refer to you?
As I'm sure someone mentioned the age when you have kids is relative to your education level.
These days if you can pull off being a stay at home mom that is great but it's pretty tough financially to do in most cases. I think the smart move, assuming you both are going to college, is to plan like both of you will work and pursue a field where there are jobs even if you think you'll stay home.
Who knows, maybe both of you will have flexible schedules and you only will need part time daycare. Maybe a grandparent will decide they want to watch. I've just seen a couple women get their degree with no intention of every working. With no experience a degree in art I'm not sure it was worth getting.
You will eventually get married and have a baby. then you will have to put up with people asking you when you are going to have another one
Isn't this the truth! We started trying for baby #2 when DS was 18-months old. I ended up having 4 consecutive miscarriages before I finally had my second child, my DD. DS was 4y2m by the time she was born. The constant needling about when we would give DS a sibling was very painful and hard to take since I was dealing with the pain of recurrent miscarriages and was very fearful I would never be able to give him a sibling. Sometimes people should just mind their own buisness.
Who cares if it is the norm or not? If you don't want kids yet, you don't want kids. I know plenty of people in their 20's with kids, plenty with no kids, and a few who swear they never want kids, EVER.
Honestly, your comments come across as really derogatory. Instead of saying "have kids" you purposely use the term "pop out babies" which makes women sound like baby making machines. Who cares if your parents made x amount of money...what does that have to do with your choice as an adult to decide you don't want kids right now? Yes, it's responsible to make sure you can financially support a child, but saying you "like making money" implies that anyone with a kid at your age can't properly support their kid because they are broke. Plenty of people in their 20s can comfortably support a child, even if they don't make a ton of money.
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