Son and his girlfriend barely visit due to sleeping arrangement (best, complaining)
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Maybe the oldtimers had it right. I mean they didn't have nearly the problems we have now. We can't even board a plane without having to arrive 2 hours early to be strip searched. Our children can barely go to school without having to worry about being bullied, or being shot up by a classmate. We can't go enjoy movie....oh you get the point. But at least we can do what we want, and we have smartphones, the internet and facebook now!
I'm amazed it has taken someone so long to mention this. Any Psychologist will point out that all relationships are power-plays, and one side always has the upper hand. When children are little the power is clearly in the parents hands, or at least should be. As children mature the pendulum does or should swing towards the child. Once a child is an adult, is independent, and moved out, the ball is their court. Unless you have a massive trust fund or inheritance to hold over their head the parent usually looses all power in the relationship. Unfortunately some like the OP are either intellectually not capable of recognizing that fact, or are too stubborn to do so. I'll say this to the OP. Remember that pride is also one of the seven deadly sins.
The rules of the house are one thing. The OP is entitled to have them, as long as she owns the roof. All this talk of morality and religion is off base. Regardless of what religion the OP embraces, religion does not equal morality.
You need to understand who makes the rules and why we follow them. We are all responsible for our own actions. Unmarried couples spending the night together in ones home is the responsibility of the homeowner. Is it really going to kill them to respect the rules of her home. They are acting like brats.
No, they are acting like adults and choosing the option better for them. That does not make them brats.
So basically, if the son stated that he wanted his three shack-up honeys to be able to sleep in the same room under his parents roof then the mom should give into his desires because otherwise it would be disrespectful to his freedom/choices as an adult? So the son is justified in holding the mom hostage to whatever situation he wants to bring to her doorstep? Nope, I am glad that this women stood firm.
Thank you!! I meant to mention this point when someone asked how this would be encouraging anything. The other kids will learn that they can hold their mom hostage whenever they don't like any of her rules if she gives in to her adult child.
So basically, if the son stated that he wanted his three shack-up honeys to be able to sleep in the same room under his parents roof then the mom should give into his desires because otherwise it would be disrespectful to his freedom/choices as an adult? So the son is justified in holding the mom hostage to whatever situation he wants to bring to her doorstep? Nope, I am glad that this women stood firm.
Bringing "three shack-up honeys" is no were near the same as a person you have been living with for the past 2+ years
So the son is justified in holding the mom hostage to whatever situation he wants to bring to her doorstep?
She isn't being held hostage. He is honoring her wishes in regards to sleeping arrangements under her roof.
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