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I fortunately have a mother who is not intrusive regarding this. She has never ever questioned me about it, I don't know what she thinks on this and I personally don't care about it.
When she met one of a my brother's girlfriends for the first time, he was already 30.
My mother is the same. Then again, since she herself never married, it would seem odd to me for her to question me on it. She knows that I don't plan on marrying and having kids, and she says as long as I'm happy that's all that matters.
I fortunately have a mother who is not intrusive regarding this. She has never ever questioned me about it, I don't know what she thinks on this and I personally don't care about it.
When she met one of a my brother's girlfriends for the first time, he was already 30.
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My mother is the same. Then again, since she herself never married, it would seem odd to me for her to question me on it. She knows that I don't plan on marrying and having kids, and she says as long as I'm happy that's all that matters.
My parents are similar to the ones described above. Fortunately my younger sister has done the marriage and childbirth thing so there will never be any pressure, not that there ever was as my parents have always respected my boundaries. My paternal grandmother was the only relative who ever gave me grief over my very limited dating and relationship history. She even pulled out the homosexual card before she died.
I have always been extremely independent so admittedly I am a little fearful over the conversion that would naturally come with a change from being single to being in a committed relationship.
My mother is the same. Then again, since she herself never married, it would seem odd to me for her to question me on it. She knows that I don't plan on marrying and having kids, and she says as long as I'm happy that's all that matters.
In the end my mother knows me better than anyone so she knows it's highly advisable I'm not dating.
I have 3 older kids (31, 28 and 27) The girls date 31 and 28, but are not interested in marriage or kids. My son doesn't, but he was diagnosed as bipolar 1 at age 23. He needs to get his meds right and his life in order. He's not concerned with dating. As for me, things are different from when I was younger. We all (or most) wanted marriage and kids. I want my kids to be happy, that's all. If they don't want it and they're happy, then I'm happy.
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My mom calls my sister selfish for not wanting kids. My sister and her husband are married and have no plans to have children. They're happy being child-free. My mom has expressed her disappointment to her.
On the other hand, I've never been in a relationship and have no desire to have children. My mom doesn't seem to care that I've made those decisions
Hey, it's your life. I'd be sad for that child, for my wife and I have a great marriage. I'd hate for them to miss out on the kind of happiness we have. But it's his or her life to live.
I know how you feel. I feel sad that my parents missed out on the kind of happiness I have from traveling.
If I get married and have kids - great! But that has never been, nor will ever be my number 1 priority. Or number 2, 3, 4 or even 5. That has nothing to do with my parents who have been married for almost 35 years and together for more than 40.
I'd be sad if my child wasn't interested in finding a partner, and I would be concerned that the lack of interest might be from depression or prior bad experiences rather than a true lack of interest like asexualism. But her choice is her choice, and so long as she has friends I won't be worried.
My own daughter refused all male attention all the way through high school and into uni.
She said she had better things to do.
I think its AWESOME, I didn't have to worry about the stupid things her friends did, nor did she. She would come and tell me about all the teenage dramas and we would have a good laugh.
There were boys around, though, one in particular who I wonder about even now. I think hes in love with her, she's all...meh.....
Why is it awesome?
I know someone who turns 34 this year and never had a boyfriend. Her parents thought it was awesome as well that she didn't date in her early 20s. But dating and relationship is something one learns, just like anything else in life.
"better things to do" is code word for "insecure". You can take my word to the bank on that one.
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