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Here's a thought: has she had her first "woman" exam yet? i.e. pap smear etc? If not, schedule that for her and tell her a little about it and maybe she would talk to her doctor about things she might not to you. I think I would believe her, though, if she insists she is not sexually active, until you had some real reason not to. So I would not insist she go on BC just because she has a boyfriend. You've let her know how you would help her should she need it and she knows what to do.
Here's a thought: has she had her first "woman" exam yet? i.e. pap smear etc? If not, schedule that for her and tell her a little about it and maybe she would talk to her doctor about things she might not to you. I think I would believe her, though, if she insists she is not sexually active, until you had some real reason not to. So I would not insist she go on BC just because she has a boyfriend. You've let her know how you would help her should she need it and she knows what to do.
Are you sure? I was under the impression that minors have some rights in regards to medical decisions once they are older, especially sexual health decisions.
In most states minors of age (it varies from state to state, some as low as 11) have a right to make their own reproductive health choices. Besides that the majority of doctors would not proscribe birth control for a girl who states she does not want to be on it. Now likely he could browbeat her into telling the doctor she wants it but no, it is neither moral nor legal.
To the father who thinks he has the right to control his daughters body. Good luck with that.
In most states minors of age (it varies from state to state, some as low as 11) have a right to make their own reproductive health choices. Besides that the majority of doctors would not proscribe birth control for a girl who states she does not want to be on it. Now likely he could browbeat her into telling the doctor she wants it but no, it is neither moral nor legal.
To the father who thinks he has the right to control his daughters body. Good luck with that.
If her mother and I decided she had to be on some form of birth control, why would we present it as a question or choice? She'd learn early on that it's just what people do until they are ready to have children of their own. If I thought I should or could control her body, and what she or anybody else did with it and to it, there'd be no need for birth control to begin with.
If her mother and I decided she had to be on some form of birth control, why would we present it as a question or choice? She'd learn early on that it's just what people do until they are ready to have children of their own. If I thought I should or could control her body, and what she or anybody else did with it and to it, there'd be no need for birth control to begin with.
You are actually saying you are going to expect a nearly grown woman to not even question what is being done to her body? To have zero say in the decision making process? And how does that remotely teach her anything?
You are actually saying you are going to expect a nearly grown woman to not even question what is being done to her body? To have zero say in the decision making process? And how does that remotely teach her anything?
I hope she does question it. I'll be glad to go over the science of it with her. Might learn a few things myself. And she won't be nearly grown, she'll be what? 13 or so? If it's in a pill form we could just give it to her with her asthma medicine I suppose. Part of the routine. This one keeps you breathing well, this one keeps you childless for one more month. Or if it's a shot she has to take from time to time why would it be any different than taking her to get an allergy shot or something? Things are only a big deal if you make them in to a big deal. It'll never be presented as some big coming of age thing or anything.
If her mother and I decided she had to be on some form of birth control, why would we present it as a question or choice? She'd learn early on that it's just what people do until they are ready to have children of their own. If I thought I should or could control her body, and what she or anybody else did with it and to it, there'd be no need for birth control to begin with.
I imagine the doctor will present it to her as a question or a choice.
They don't give pap smears until 30 now here When I first moved here it was every two years once you became sexually active and now its been pushed back to 30 unless you have abnormal bleeding or pains.
I imagine the doctor will present it to her as a question or a choice.
I doubt it, or at least not in the way you imagine. These "choice" issues are centered more around letting kids get birth control behind their parents' back. The issue isn't framed in a way to deal with families where birth control is handled as a given. Not to mention, since she will be a minor I will be able to discuss these things with her doctor before hand, and approach the issue with tact. I'm not worried.
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Or if it's a shot she has to take from time to time why would it be any different than taking her to get an allergy shot or something? Things are only a big deal if you make them in to a big deal. It'll never be presented as some big coming of age thing or anything.
When I first moved here it was every two years once you became sexually active and now its been pushed back to 30 unless you have abnormal bleeding or pains.
