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It is unhealthy for everyone all-around....what kind of marriage survives this behavior. I know a few people that do this and I want to strangle them lol! I have twins and couldn't imagine them sleeping with us in the same room, let alone same bed for the last 3 years!! NO WAY!!!!and others think it's OK!
Anyone else?
Why do people get so ticked about this? If you don't like it ... don't do it. If your friends are doing it and it works for their family - good for them. Mind your business and don't tell others how to live their life. Seems pretty simple to me.
We did not co-sleep with our children but that was just our choice. He developed good sleeping habits with them early on and never had problems. I have seen tv shows where practically adult children are still sleeping in the same bed or bedroom as their parents. Now that gets pretty creepy as far as I am concerned.
So my 10 month old son slept in his crib until about 9 months. At 6months old he started experience separation anxiety. The only way he would go to sleep was if he was actually laying on us! That was a tough time lol. At the age of 8 month he would not sleep ain his crib. For about 5 nights i tried to put him in his crib at night and it did not fly. I even tried to put him in after he was sleeping but he would wake right up! i would check on him every 10 mins up to a whole hour and he would not give up crying. Finally after the 5 days i needed sleep and so did he. So one night he fell asleep in my bed with me and I let it slide because i wanted my sanity back ( i need my sleep!). Well for the past month he has been sleeping in our bed. Im getting more sleep and hes getting more sleep. I always said i would never put him in out bed but here i am! For right now that is how its going to stay. Not only does he sleep better but he is definitely less irritable now. I had a lot of difficulty with him wanting to eat finger foods even though he was pulling himself up crawling and had 8 teeth!!!! Well as soon as he started sleeping in our bed i guess he is now more rested and i guess he was more relaxed and he started eating solid foods no problem! co sleeping isnt for everyone but im glad to see that their are a lot of people on here who do co sleep with their child. i was feeling guilty for letting him sleep in our bed because i thought i was the only one. I think people are just a little too judgemental sometimes.
Why do people get so ticked about this? If you don't like it ... don't do it. If your friends are doing it and it works for their family - good for them. Mind your business and don't tell others how to live their life. Seems pretty simple to me.
Agreed. i think when one comes a parent someone always has an opinion how you should raise your baby! people should be less judgmental!
I'm glad to see so many people don't have a problem with this.
I'm of the school of thought that it is really absurd to think that there is only one right way. People, families are all so different, so they need to address each of these issues on their own.
Before I had kids I used to think it would be nuts, but after is a whole differnt ball of wax.
First, like some said, I wanted the closeness. There is some real bonding that goes on by cuddling at night. Second, I don't know why we think it is so normal for kids to sleep alone when adults, for the most part, don't sleep alone. One of my child has terrible night terrors, and if she's with us, they are far less severe. So it works out better for all of us.
This is exactly how i feel except with less words hehe. Good job!
I NEVER understood how parents can place their child in ANOTHER ROOM and close the door on them for 8 hours or so, particularly when the kid(s) are so tiny and small.
My understanding is that there is a big difference between people who are co-sleeping because it is an educated choice they have made and people who are co-sleeping because of financial constraints (ie can't afford a crib). In America, people who have made an educated choice to co-sleep are more likely to read up on how to do so safely and what steps they should take to make their sleep environment as infant-friendly as possible. (In other places where co-sleeping is the norm, they have societal common knowledge about this) If we promoted safe co-sleeping tips as much as we promoted safe crib-sleeping tips (ie no bumpers, no blankets, no toys, back sleeping, etc.) then I think that this would be much less of a problem. To say that people shouldn't co-sleep because sometimes babies suffocate is not the most responsible stance, rather we should be educating people on safe co-sleeping habits just like we educate them on safe crib-sleeping habits.
Agreed! We could all say dont let a baby go to sleep because they could die from sids. Obviously that is a ridiculous statement i just made! Im pretty paranoid about things so i take steps to make sure my baby is as safe as can be while sleeping in my bed. He does not sleep on a pillow and i make sure his face is no where near mine. I also make sure the covers arent near him (i usually sleep with a light blanket over me instead of under all the covers anyway) and he sleeps in a sleep sack so that he is warm.
I couldn't imagine doing this all the time, but if it was occasional I don't see the harm. My parents had a huge king-sized bed and when my dad was out of town on business my mother would let my sister and I sleep there when we were kids.
When my 2nd son was a baby the only way he would sleep well was in bed with me. My husband was on midnights so it didn't really matter. Only problem was he stayed there until he was 9 yrs old! We started putting him back in his own bed when he started school but he would sneak in in the middle of the night. We'd catch him and make him go back to his own bed but he just got better at being sneaky! Then finally after years of trying ( bribing, punishing ) around 9 yrs old he just quit coming in.
My sister recently asked me what I thought of her 2 yr old sleeping with her and I told her it's fine as long as you don't mind him being there for the next 7 yrs!
I made darn sure that didn't happen with the last two kids!
When my 2nd son was a baby the only way he would sleep well was in bed with me. My husband was on midnights so it didn't really matter. Only problem was he stayed there until he was 9 yrs old! We started putting him back in his own bed when he started school but he would sneak in in the middle of the night. We'd catch him and make him go back to his own bed but he just got better at being sneaky! Then finally after years of trying ( bribing, punishing ) around 9 yrs old he just quit coming in.
My sister recently asked me what I thought of her 2 yr old sleeping with her and I told her it's fine as long as you don't mind him being there for the next 7 yrs!
I made darn sure that didn't happen with the last two kids!
All of my kids co-slept with me at some point or another. My oldest 3 have all transitioned into their beds by the time they were 3 or 4, so not one of them still comes in and expects to sleep in our bed every night now that they are 10, 8, and 4.
My 2 y/o starts off in his bed and comes to me around 1 or 2 a.m. He will also not be in my bed for the next 7 years, and will make the move to his big boy bed permanently in the near future. Every kid is different, for sure, but I would say that MOST don't sleep with their parents past toddler/preschoolhood. I wouldn't discourage a mom from co-sleeping because you MIGHT end up with a kid that wants to share your bed until they are older. It's not like that for everyone.
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Agreed. i think when one comes a parent someone always has an opinion how you should raise your baby! people should be less judgmental!
