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Iowagirl--that's how we ended up with the toddler bed next to ours! We tried placing him in his own room, but he would get up and snuggle with us--but he was hogging too much bed. The side-by-side worked wonderful!
good idea! i'll try that when he gets a little bigger. i actually tried once but dad complained because he kept tripping over the bed.
I think it varies for each family.
The thing is, it's in the modern and western world where it is not normality. If you look outside of the modern world, co-sleeping is a very normal thing. For example in third world countries it is very common.
Well, for us, it's more of a convenience, as we only have one bedroom now and I don't want him to sleep in the living room as we spend a lot of time there, we have people over a lot at night, but deep down I still really enjoy the closeness. I'm a working mom. I'm away from my son the entire freaking day. The only time for us to have that closeness is in the evening. I think we both feel good that during the night we still near each other to compensate for the time we are apart during the day.
I know that one day he will have to move to his own bedroom. I'm actually feeling sad about it, but I know IT HAS TO HAPPEN sooner or later. We will deal with it then.
i feel the same way. i miss him so much during the day. when i go home, the last thing i want to do is push him away from me.
Well, I really don't care what other people do. Our kids are in their own beds. Some days I think I'd like my own bed, too, because I can't stand anyone touching me while I sleep. My husband sometimes likes to put his foot next to mine and I shoo him away. Poor guy. Kids would just crawl all over me. Yikes! But, that's me. Others can do as they please so long as they don't come crawling into my bed.
It is unhealthy for everyone all-around....what kind of marriage survives this behavior. I know a few people that do this and I want to strangle them lol! I have twins and couldn't imagine them sleeping with us in the same room, let alone same bed for the last 3 years!! NO WAY!!!!and others think it's OK!
Anyone else?
Why do you care what others do in regards to sleeping habits?
Co-sleeping is not something that would work for my family & I am the other extreme & used the cry it out method & that worked great for us. Some people think I am a criminal for CIO method, but it worked for us. Our 3yr old sleeps 11-12hrs/night through the night in his own bed. He wakes up ready to go every morning, usually with a big sleepy smile. Our 8 month old is getting weaned & learning that he's gotta figure out how to sleep, too. It's just how WE DECIDED to do it.
So, whatever works in regards to sleeping habits...go for it!! I can't see the sense in judging people on something such as co-sleeping.
It is ok. The important thing is that at night your children feel safe, secure & loved. This is what leads them to get a good night sleep. How parents go about doing this is their own perogative.
My husband and I allow our kids (5 and 7) into our bed as they want to... some weeks it's every night and some weeks we don't see them at all. We have been happily married for 10 years. We are able to do "bedroom things" as often as we want to. Honestly, it's none of anyone else's concern where someone's children sleep.
Why do parents let their kids sleep in their bed or room at all?!
Sometimes it starts with breastfeeding a baby, when it's much more conducive to getting a good night's sleep yourself, to have the baby with you, when they feed so often in the early days. It remains convenient and secure and so some people continue on with it.
Whatever works for a family, is their own business- if it works for them, then everything's a-ok. (I'm not being rude, I'm just saying- honestly- people's sleep habits and needs and abilities to sleep are so different, what seems like a disturbing, restless situation to some might be the ONLY way others can get the sleep they need.)
You'll love what works for ME then... I cosleep with the babies and my husband, who is usually sleep deprived and can't make it through the day when kids wake him up all through the night by crying or coming into the room or whatever it is....with babies, it's the need to be changed and fed through the night...etc...my husband sleeps alone and I sleep with the kids when need be. It's not bad for our marriage and our romance does not suffer any more than having kids in general would make it so. It is actually better for our marriage, because I do it with his complete approval/relief so he can get a restful night's sleep before going off to a demanding job. I cosleep with the kid(s) to be nice to the husband. And when they get out of the very young ages everyone will be back in their own beds.
Quite frankly....my husband snores and I get a better rest with the baby anyway! It totally works for us. A lot of our friends all cosleep together- this would NOT work for us with everyone jiggling in the bed. And some of our friends always put their kids in their own rooms/cribs/beds from the start. They formula feed. Or of they breastfeed, they have to get up through the night. This would not work as well for me because I get too awake when I have to get up too much and would get sick from lack of sleep.
So that's one possibility.....people need sleep at the rate they can attain it.
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