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People are idiots at picking good spouses and then blame the entire other gender when it blows up in their face.
Brilliant.
People can put on an act or change, sometimes for years. I have seen some real doozies among my friends and co-workers. Sometimes either of the two get bored or sick of the other and the divorce laws put no disincentive for the woman to divorce, quite the opposite in fact, which is why 70-80% of divorces are instigated by women. Our culture is just becoming more and more dysfunctional as evidenced by the high divorce rate, high percentage of children born out of wedlock, and declining birth rates.
People can put on an act or change, sometimes for years. I have seen some real doozies among my friends and co-workers. Sometimes either of the two get bored or sick of the other and the divorce laws put no disincentive for the woman to divorce, quite the opposite in fact, which is why 70-80% of divorces are instigated by women. Our culture is just becoming more and more dysfunctional as evidenced by the high divorce rate, high percentage of children born out of wedlock, and declining birth rates.
We get it. You think all women are evil and out to suck men dry. In divorce the man is always the biggest loser and women are just heartless harpies who want to drain every cent out of every man they encounter. We've heard this ad nauseam over and over from you.
My take on the topic, usually in a relationship, one person may be better suited to managing the finances. Sometimes it's the man, sometimes it's the woman. But either way, the one who is not doing the main management, should still sit down with the manager once a week, one a month (regularly anyway) to understand the status, where the money is going, what investments they have an how they're doing, etc. and agree on the strategies. It should be a partnership.
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It was more typical for the "wifey" to manage the day to day budget and the "hubby" to manage the big financial picture.
One poster seems to have been/is very controlling. Very generous (according to her) that she gave her husband "pocket money".
Marisamay’s post wasn’t about just managing finances tho or deciding who will do what. She was talking about total control & not being pleased with her husband over it. That’s about wayyy more than money IMO & isn’t healthy for any relationship.
We get it. You think all women are evil and out to suck men dry. .
No, I don't think every woman is destined to destroy a man's life and turn him into an alimony slave. However, every woman can and a good number will. That is the problem. Marriage as it is now fails both a cost benefits analysis and a risk rewards analysis from the prospective of men.
No, I don't think every woman is destined to destroy a man's life and turn him into an alimony slave. However, every woman can and a good number will. That is the problem. Marriage as it is now fails both a cost benefits analysis and a risk rewards analysis from the prospective of men.
Ok, now you’ve done it. First, any man who says he wouldn’t prefer a wife who stayed home and ran the house and the children like a Swiss train, is lying. Plenty of women over the ages are responsible for managing the money in the household, and if they didn’t, the husband would have squandered it and the children would have starved. All a man needs to do is choose a wife with his brain engaged.
A lot of my friends who got divorce raped were pretty good judges of character. Although, some women give obvious red flags many more do not.
None is asking or expecting women to be domestic slaves. I would prefer a wife that was an equal and could carry her own weight financially. However, if women want equality then they should be treated equally in divorce. If they want to abandon their husband, don't expect to take all his assets and continue to be supported going forward. What we have now is have your cake and eat it to. Women are equal, strong and independent until they get to divorce court then they are vulnerable and demand special privileges and protections.
As far as I am concerned all these special interest identity politics groups who demand not equality but special privileges and preferential treatment are equally repugnant, the feminist and identity politics crowd on the left and the white power cretins on the alt-right.
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The thread is from 2013. Is this an issue anymore?
Fights about money & control issues are one of the biggest problems in relationships & marriages tho. It’s a touchy subject for a lot of ppl...but ita it shouldn’t be. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Fights about money & control issues are one of the biggest problems in relationships & marriages tho. It’s a touchy subject for a lot of ppl...but ita it shouldn’t be. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
