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I changed my last name when I married. I'm a widow now. I have no idea if I would ever remarry again, and if I do, how I would feel about giving up my husband's name. Yet I'm not sure how a man would feel if I kept my late husband's name. Fortunately it isn't anything I need to worry about right now.
It's interesting to hear what others do with their surnames. I used to think that having hyphenated last names were weird just because no one in my family has them, but now I think they're kind of cool. Last year I read Roger Ebert's book Life Itself in which he mentioned that his wife Chaz's last name was Hammel-Smith (don't know if they're her parents' names or one of them is an ex), and when they married she became Chaz Hammelsmith Ebert. Roger joked that we can't have someone going around with three last names, can we? Well then again some cultures regularly accept three last names once, which would confuse me!
Where I work most of the employees have 3 or more last names, and it gets reallllly complicated dealing with homeland security (I do airport stuff) and background/security checks. I've run into a lot of issues with names being different on all their IDs and them going by one name but their IDs say another. I've had quite a few get incredibly angry at me because I can't accept their IDs because their Social Security card says one thing, but their Permanent Resident card has an extra 2 names on it and their state ID/license only has one of them.
I don't care how many names you have, just be consistent and stick with the same ones!
By this logic, the same would hold true of the choice to take a spouse's last name.
Well, exactly. Whatever name one choses to take; a spouses name, their family name, hyphenated name or a completely different name, it is then THEIR name.
I took my first husbands name and chose to keep it. It is now my name.
I did consider changing my last name to my mothers maiden name but 1. didn't want the hassle and 2. wanted to have the same last name as my children and grandchildren.
Tell me something, if one of the reasons for a wife changing her name is because they are creating a new family, why should the default be his name? Why not create/choose a new name? After all, it is a new family unit you are making.
Yes, if you love him enough to marry him you take his last name no matter what. It's simple. You already have your Dad's last name now.
If he loves his new wife enough, he will gladly take her name no matter what.
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Well then again some cultures regularly accept three last names once, which would confuse me!
