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I took my husbands name, it wasn't even something I thought about. BUT I ditched my given middle name and replaced it with my maiden name. I'm keeping is after divorce too (kids, longevity, etc) I hate hyphens, don't think hyphens should be bestowed upon children (think about it...)and maintaining a customer date base with crazy long hyphenated names that only sometimes get used that way (and also get used singularly, depending on the mood of the customer) is a PITA.
People really do need to pick a name and stick to it, or hear me complain. THAT'S the only reason I care what anyone does. Those always seem to be the people who get annoyed when I don't have their name right, even though what they are telling me isn't the same as what's on their credit card. Or when I'm looking something up for them and we have to work through 3-4 variations of their name before being able to find them.
Most of my family is, actually. I don't share their name, though.
Its quite common here (south) to be judged by your family name. Who's your daddy is taken literally. So in a sense it is a big part of your identity or how others identify with you.
Awhile back I was pulled over by the local cops. He was particularly focused on the last name of my DL and was running a check on me because of it. My ex's surname has a bit of a reputation in this town and he was trying to figure out which one of them I might be. I found this out because my brother is also a cop and heard it over the police radio and explained to the other officer that I was his sister and that was an old married name.
I actually think it is good for women to go by their maiden name. It conveys confidence and authority. Don't get me wrong, if they wish to do otherwise that is fine, but I wish more people would see things from a feminist perspective.
I actually think it is good for women to go by their maiden name. It conveys confidence and authority. Don't get me wrong, if they wish to do otherwise that is fine, but I wish more people would see things from a feminist perspective.
It's not even necessarily a feminist perspective.... but an individual one. I mean, if I were to get married (and I definitely don't see that happening) I'd be extremely hesitant about changing my name. I mean, my college degrees, scholarship awards, business cards and entire career history is in my name so changing that could hurt a lot of things for me.
Its quite common here (south) to be judged by your family name. Who's your daddy is taken literally. So in a sense it is a big part of your identity or how others identify with you.
Awhile back I was pulled over by the local cops. He was particularly focused on the last name of my DL and was running a check on me because of it. My ex's surname has a bit of a reputation in this town and he was trying to figure out which one of them I might be. I found this out because my brother is also a cop and heard it over the police radio and explained to the other officer that I was his sister and that was an old married name.
Hah, that's not the south, that's small towns anywhere. I grew up in one well north of the Mason-Dixon where similar crap goes down.
As it is, I live hundreds of miles from anybody related to me. Kind of a nonissue, regardless of my name. Unless you are the type who lives in your hometown area all your life, or are a wealthy socialite, issues arising from "your family being known" are pretty much nonexistent.
I actually think it is good for women to go by their maiden name. It conveys confidence and authority. Don't get me wrong, if they wish to do otherwise that is fine, but I wish more people would see things from a feminist perspective.
Because that's what is attractive about women
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