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Old 12-07-2010, 02:52 PM
 
Location: Miami, FL
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Any positive or negative attitudes towards has a lot to do with how an individual is raised and the social forces that shape him or her as they grow up.
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Old 12-07-2010, 03:19 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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In my personal experience, (penetrative) sex is extremely painful...hence not enjoyable. For some, that's pretty much the reason.

Make a doctors appt immediately!

This is not normal (it's called dyspareunia) and can be corrected
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Old 12-07-2010, 03:21 PM
 
Location: SW Missouri
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Other than to please my husband, sex has never been big on my list. It was just a means to an end for me.

If I never had sex again, I wouldn't miss it at all.

20yrsinBranson
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Old 12-07-2010, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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Sex differs for many people. For the first 10 years having sex, it was not pleasurable at all. I then got to where it got more pleasurable but it was at lot of work getting there.

I still have issues with sex and its rarely as enjoyable as it should be without any pain, discomfort, soreness, bad friction, swelling or irritation.

And I have been checked out dozens of times. Physically, my body just has issues with penetration.
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Old 12-07-2010, 03:42 PM
 
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Other than to please my husband, sex has never been big on my list. It was just a means to an end for me.

If I never had sex again, I wouldn't miss it at all.

20yrsinBranson
That's sort of sad.


lol--If anyone is looking for inspiration---read the Outlander series by Diana Gabaldon. The story of a marriage. A really great one.
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Old 12-07-2010, 04:02 PM
 
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Make a doctors appt immediately!

This is not normal (it's called dyspareunia) and can be corrected
This could be normal if the person has not had a lot of sex. Don't you guys remember your first few times. I know it was not perfectly smooth if you know what I mean
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Old 12-07-2010, 04:10 PM
 
Location: Blankity-blank!
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Any positive or negative attitudes towards has a lot to do with how an individual is raised and the social forces that shape him or her as they grow up.
Exactly.
The dominant social force is religion.
Other nations, such as those in Europe, have less stigmas, phobias, and complexes regarding sex. America is a sexually dysfunctional nation.
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Old 12-07-2010, 04:18 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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This could be normal if the person has not had a lot of sex. Don't you guys remember your first few times. I know it was not perfectly smooth if you know what I mean
That could be it, I didn't have penetrative sex often b/c it was so painful.... Maybe I just need to do it several more times before I can rule it out as a medical condition. We'll see.
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Old 12-07-2010, 04:19 PM
 
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Generalization. lol

How am I generalizing? I said most women (not ALL), and I'm always careful about making comments without having the facts first. I've heard enough experiences where this is the case.

When you're young and inexperienced and have not yet experienced an orgasm, intercourse can be painful and not pleasurable. I'm sure that with time, once you've loosened up a bit (pun intended ), even if you don't experience an orgasm, it can be enjoyable.
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Old 12-07-2010, 04:22 PM
 
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How am I generalizing? I said most women (not ALL), and I'm always careful about making comments without having the facts first. I've heard enough experiences where this is the case.

When you're young and inexperienced and have not yet experienced an orgasm, intercourse can be painful and not pleasurable. I'm sure that with time, once you've loosened up a bit (pun intended ), even if you don't experience an orgasm, it can be enjoyable.
um--yes, IT can be enjoyable. You'll get no argument from me on That. lol
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