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There's a difference between nice/ good guy and shy/ smothering type of guy who think they are "nice/good guys" and get offended when women don't respond to them well.
I didn't read the entire thread. But I don't understand that type of reasoning. This is how I would describe guys like that: Bad guys that admit they're bad and they think that makes them nice guys for being honest.
However, admitting you're the bad guy is better than being a hypocrite and pretending you're good. If you're going to be the bad guy, at least admit it. But it's best to actually be a nice guy.
What does being a nice guy mean to you? In most societies, sincerity and honesty are considered virtues.
Didn't mean to imply they were equal because they are not.
I was just giving an example of nice/good guys that are also shy and/or may smother a woman that shows interest in them. Honestly, I was speaking from my experience with two nice/good guys. One who was shy and though its kinda cute at first, it wears thin after a while, especially when you end up knowing the person for a while. Another one was telling me he missed me and asking me if I thought about him while I went away for the holidays. Intense feelings so early on when its not reciprocated is unfortunate. Anyways, those were both nice/good guys who didn't quite work out; sometimes, being nice/good is not enough if there are other qualities that stand out.
Some (shy) guys are willing to open up and be less shy in a nurturing relationship.
In my post, I was talking about friendship and love (the LTR, committed kind), not including the physical intimacy part. But I suppose if you included physical intimacy into the equation, then yes, it would still be the same idea: don't mix friendship and intercourse, either.
I never have, and never will, engage in a "FWB" scenario, with any girl I am friends with, ever. To me, it just seems morally wrong, because it would be almost the same as getting physical with a sister, or a female cousin.
I would confide in your sincerity more, if we were still in last millennium.
Quote:
Nothing is more noble, nothing more venerable than fidelity. Faithfulness and truth are the most sacred excellences and endowments of the human mind.
- Marcus Tullius Cicero
Last edited by danielpalos; 01-09-2011 at 06:52 PM..
What does being a nice guy mean to you? In most societies, sincerity and honesty are considered virtues.
Yes, honesty and sincerity are virtues. Like I said, it's better to admit you're the bad guy (honesty) than to pretend you're good.
I'm just saying if you're a bad guy and you're honest about it, that doesn't make you a nice guy. It means you're a bad guy and you're admitting it.
A nice guy is someone that doesn't care about sex. Someone that cares too much about her to use her for sex. Whether you're honest about it or not, if your intention is to get laid, you're not a nice guy.
Girls date bad boys for fun. (the sane ones, at least) Nice guys are there to fall back on if she ever wants a serious relationship. Telling her you're only interested in getting laid is ruining the minuscule chance of a drunken pity ****.
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