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Your looking for the wrong type of woman - Woman that are primarily interested in what you do for a living and how much money you make or how finacially "stable" you are - do not make good partners or mates. If there is a crisis and you become ill and can not earn a living - would you like the idea of being dumped by a woman for the simple fact that you are broke and in a weakened state? No - you don't want that kind of person in your life.
When you are dating a woman..or meeting them casually - don't mention what you do...or how well you are doing - or show off the fact that you have a few bucks in your pocket - Just present yourself as your self...keep it simple - a man's identity is not contained in his wallet. You are not having any luck finding woman because you base your identity and persona on what is superfical - matierialism - woman want spirit - a tender touch - a man with ethics who might not want to make money at things that are un-ethical - in other words the good woman are looking for a good man...woman that are matierial don't care if they pair up with a murderous piriate - that earns a good living - those are not the ones you want or need to have a good life -
A GOOD WOMAN WANTS A GOOD MAN - not a weasil with money.
because you lack the spice and the alpha male qualities, if women do date or marry you it would be for stability
being an alpha male is about confidence and essentially being an old-fashioned male (in mentality and attitude).
he said he has a government job, so he could be a manager for all we know. Leadership is a key, if not the key, alpha male characteristic.
As for why he doesn't get dates, it could be that he is not physically attractive. Or for no reason at all. Life sometimes makes no apparent sense. Granted, looks aren't everything, but maybe he is seeking out women who are naturally more shallow.
Don't like the term "alpha male"....today any agressive heartless jerk and bully can be termed an alpha male..it is not about dominance it is about intelligence and wisdom...about grace and class and having a noble personal...not about being the biggest and most hard biting dog in the pack.
Four pages of feedback from others, a bunch of questions asked of you and all that comes back from you are three subsequent posts which are very brief and really offer nothing insightful. If you come across as "engaging" in person as you do on this thread I'm afraid you really might be a bit of a bore.
Do you have female friends or even family members who might be honest enough to give you some hints? It might be time for a makeover in many areas as the status quo doesn't seem to be doing much for you. Good luck!
Here's the thing....
Our OP doesn't really want any help, he's just yanking our chains.
What he really wants is to justify his state of singleness to make himself feel better about it.
And hey, being single for life is a choice some people make - nothing wrong with that.
I just think it's extremely disingenuous to say you've chosen this life on one thread, then try to blame women for where you find himself on another (this one)
This is what our OP wrote on the "Terrified of Being Alone" thread:
12-12-2011, 11:46 PM
CtownKeith
Member
Well ya see Im 45 and single by choice. I live in an emmaculate apartment no pets no kids no hassel lol. Just me myself and my hobbies. What could be better than that? And if folks think Im wrong by not living by norm by marrying and having kids, well they can sit on it!
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Ohhh stop blaming women for your own inability to find and attract a mate.
I know right?
If every woman doesn't want a second date with you, then it's probably your behavior on the first dates that is driving them away. What type of activities do you typically do? How do you present yourself? What do you have to offer in a potential relationship? Are you looking just for sex or a romantic relationship?
Our OP doesn't really want any help, he's just yanking our chains.
What he really wants is to justify his state of singleness to make himself feel better about it.
And hey, being single for life is a choice some people make - nothing wrong with that.
I just think it's extremely disingenuous to say you've chosen this life on one thread, then try to blame women for where you find himself on another (this one)
This is what our OP wrote on the "Terrified of Being Alone" thread:
12-12-2011, 11:46 PM
CtownKeith
Member
Well ya see Im 45 and single by choice. I live in an emmaculate apartment no pets no kids no hassel lol. Just me myself and my hobbies. What could be better than that? And if folks think Im wrong by not living by norm by marrying and having kids, well they can sit on it!
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Well I would prefer to have a partner at this point in my life. I would welcome any and all suggestions , I think mostly its the limited availability of females in my immediate area. I live in a small town middle of no where Maryland and there isn't a great diversity of people.
Our OP doesn't really want any help, he's just yanking our chains.
What he really wants is to justify his state of singleness to make himself feel better about it.
And hey, being single for life is a choice some people make - nothing wrong with that.
I just think it's extremely disingenuous to say you've chosen this life on one thread, then try to blame women for where you find himself on another (this one)
In the word of Dr. Sheldon Cooper...BAZINGA!
This is what our OP wrote on the "Terrified of Being Alone" thread:
12-12-2011, 11:46 PM
CtownKeith
Member
Well ya see Im 45 and single by choice. I live in an emmaculate apartment no pets no kids no hassel lol. Just me myself and my hobbies. What could be better than that? And if folks think Im wrong by not living by norm by marrying and having kids, well they can sit on it!
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So within 2 days the OP has gone from enjoying being by himself to wondering why he can't get second dates. For some reason, I'm thinking part of the conversations on these dates includes, "Nahh, I LOVE being alone. I live in an emmaculate apartment no pets no kids no hassel." I see the women running the other way like running is going out of style
I don't think people define the term that way anyhow. It is about being confident and asserted, and in control.
I agree to a degree. BUT when that bully recruits a gang of followers who do his or her bidding then that is not an alpha person - it is a manipulative and weak weasil...who has duped those on mass and is an orgainzer of sorts - was someone like Hitler and his handlers a bully? Or an alpha male? I would say not. This phenomena of swarming or organizing is much like socialism or communism...to stimulate the mass and deploy them to do the bidding of a liar....Bulling or being a bull is natural...if you are in a field and your job is to fertilze cows - other than that a bully is much like a pig that has learned to manipulate through the most base human qualities of hate - insecurity - and greed...You could say that those that handle international economies are bullys...cos..they are powerless unless they convince the world that there is a problem and only they have the answers..
Im 45 never been married. Work at a good Government job in the IT field but I can't get a second date. Now I'm no Brad Pitt but I think women should look past looks and see me for my stability and what I could potentially bring to a relationship.
Anything else going for you, that will spark a woman's interest?
Mystery?
Muscles?
Humor?
Wit?
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For some reason, I'm thinking part of the conversations on these dates includes, "Nahh, I LOVE being alone. I live in an emmaculate apartment no pets no kids no hassel." I see the women running the other way like running is going out of style 
