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Originally Posted by Info Guy
The good news is that you have 24 hours to change your attitude. You are funny dude.
15 messages on a dating site? Lol. Dude, women gets hundreds of messages everyday. Don't expect them to write you back. What do you send them anyway? It is only 15.
Try writing 100 and you should get a few responses.
How do you look like? Post pictures.
Make yourself interesting then. Why should I be your friend if you are not interesting?
Rough guide:
Well written messages = expect a return rate of 1 out 4 or 25%.
Generic, copy and paste type messages = expect a return rate of 1 out of 10 or 10%
Winks/Flirts = expect a return rate of 1 out of 20 or 5%
Assuming you are reasonably attractive and interesting and have a good profile pic. It varies with the site.
After they respond, expect similar odds to actually even ARRANGING a date. I'd say once you catch someone's interest and she replies expect a 1 in 5 chance you'll actually be going out with her.
So even with well written messages, that's 0.2 x 0.25 = 0.05, or 1 out of 20. So if you send out 100 messages, expect 5 potential dates. If you send out 20, expect one potential dates.
I probably send out 100 messages in my entire online dating career and have been about 4 dates.
Stay away from online dating, judging by your current location go look for talent to slay in either old town (alexandria) or clarendon.
Even the best of us get shot down, but online dating is just an excuse for most girls (and a huge chunk of very undesirable ones) to get an ego boost as the result of uneven ratios.
Stay away from online dating, judging by your current location go look for talent to slay in either old town (alexandria) or clarendon.
Even the best of us get shot down, but online dating is just an excuse for most girls (and a huge chunk of very undesirable ones) to get an ego boost as the result of uneven ratios.
I agree and I'm also saying the same thing. Avoid online dating especially in culturally North Eastern style American cities from D.C, Philly, NYC to Boston. Usually women from these regions are looking for attractive guys while the woman is physically unattractive or has some sort of baggage. Unattractive women have a bigger advantage of meeting someone and getting laid far more than an unattractive guy online. For many women online dating and meeting a cute guy that is broke and has no credit score will be a show piece to show off in front of her best friends and siblings to boost her self esteem. To the op if you want these type of shallow women, go to the gym and work out, invest some sort of money, build up your credit score and try to make your self more attractable to this large pool of women. If your going to do online dating do it further south or further west. Overall just avoid online dating for now where you live. Just try to go to more outgoing social events and put yourself out there.
This line has worked for me when sending a message not sure why
"I don't mean to be so forward but I was wondering can i have a KISS?
I get a lot of responses with that
Thats really odd, because thats such a doormatish way of talking to someone. In real world, most women worth guys time would laugh at you if you said something like that. But hey, ill take your world for it. Never tried online dating and dont plan on it, but i suppose it works for some, so more power to em.
OP, don't be so hard yourself... I think some people just don't check their messages that often. If they do well no big deal, they clearly aren't worth your time if they're judging you before you even have a chance to connect with them. The right person will come along.
I'll admit I actually set up an online dating profile, but have yet to actually fill it out or put up a photo. I already got some messages but didn't reply to any yet, not because I'm judging anyone, but because I'm not sure how serious I am about going through with my profile (which I may delete). I'd rather meet people the "normal" way just by going out more since I'm in a big city before I resort to online dating.
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