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Old 09-06-2012, 08:11 PM
 
Location: Australia
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Originally Posted by TheEarthBeneathMe View Post
Please - keep your dirty imagination out of this...

Leave it in the gutter where it belongs..


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Edit - btw - nice editing out where I explained they were most likely the twenty something's common to those websites...not to mention the advertisements which she apparently mistook (and this board morphed into him) "video chatting" with..
You missed my point...as usual.

My point is, what good would your censorship and rating of these sites do?

What possible help could it be to OP?

He's either breaching her trust or he's not. He is. Plus she's worried because they have daughters...that is her INSTINCT and she needs to follow it, not change her mind because "a lot of those girls are legal" according to some poster on a forum JESUS WEPT!!!!!

 
Old 09-06-2012, 08:18 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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she's worried because they have daughters...that is her INSTINCT and she needs to follow it, not change her mind because "a lot of those girls are legal" according to some poster on a forum JESUS WEPT!!!!!
Yeah, the issue of the daughters' safety is one she has to pay attention to. The fear could be overblown, but as a mother she has to heed her gut feelings.

The concern is that the porn has escalated over the years to the point now that she's disgusted by it and by her husband, plus now she has grounds to worry about her duaghters' safety around their dad. Furthermore, there seems to be fair reason to believe he's been having sex with other women. So the person she married, or thought she was marrying, has morphed into something she's very uncomfortable with and put off by. Sad, but the situation needs to be addressed somehow.
 
Old 09-06-2012, 08:38 PM
 
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Just saw them (I hope you don't mind OP).

I think there was 1 (out of around 5) red flag sites that suggests OP may have been right to suspect something..

I'll leave it at that!

Edit -

That may not have been too clear.

Only one would be concerning, and even I wouldn't go near as a guy in a relationship..

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Old 09-06-2012, 08:40 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Just saw them (I hope you don't mind OP).

I think there was 1 (out of around 5) red flag sites that suggests OP may have been right to suspect something..

I'll leave it at that!

One is one too many.
 
Old 09-06-2012, 09:08 PM
 
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One is one too many.
That's true but the fact that she's bringing up events from 15 years ago does say something about her ability, or lack thereof, to practice forgiveness.
 
Old 09-06-2012, 09:09 PM
 
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Originally Posted by TheEarthBeneathMe View Post
Just saw them (I hope you don't mind OP).

I think there was 1 (out of around 5) red flag sites that suggests OP may have been right to suspect something..

I'll leave it at that!
 
Old 09-06-2012, 09:22 PM
 
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That's true but the fact that she's bringing up events from 15 years ago does say something about her ability, or lack thereof, to practice forgiveness.
Forgiveness? You are kind of missing the point.

She listed the things that she has had concern about over the 15 years not to harp on them but to show why she is feeling like she made a mistake in marrying this man.

Taken all together everything she listed paints quite an alarming picture.
 
Old 09-06-2012, 09:30 PM
 
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Forgiveness? You are kind of missing the point.

She listed the things that she has had concern about over the 15 years not to harp on them but to show why she is feeling like she made a mistake in marrying this man.

Taken all together everything she listed paints quite an alarming picture.
Yes I did forgive him for that pre wedding tryst more than 15 years ago. Actually I have never even brought it up since then or even really thought about it until now.

It was because the discovery and current suspicious evidence took me right back to those same hurt feelings...
 
Old 09-06-2012, 09:35 PM
 
Location: Australia
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When they show you what they're really like, believe them the first time.

Sadly you ignored your instincts then too.

Don't keep making the same mistake, especially as your daughters may be the ones who will pay the price.
 
Old 09-06-2012, 09:51 PM
 
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when they show you what they're really like, believe them the first time.
Yes.
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