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Dating someone and raising their kids is a completely different thing. I've dated several divorced / single mothers and never once had to raise or provide for any of the children.
The biggest reason I can think of is that the single adult dating a singe parent will NEVER be number one in their life,
In EVERY single case of a single parent their children is their single priority. There is nothing wrong in this, in fact it is biologically correct. However it is a barrier only the desperate will lose in.
This. I always find it odd that in online dating profiles, a lot of the single mothers will say something like, "My child(ren) are my number one priority, if you can't handle that, then keep moving!"
It's such a turnoff.
I just imagine in my head, "The highest priority you'll ever be in my life is #2, barring anything else important going on in my life. So really, you may drop down to #4, 5 or 6 if conditions are right."
Meh...no thanks...pass.
Also, on my local POF, there are at least a couple of women who are under 30 and have 4 (!!!) children, and there ad title is something to the effect of "tired of lies and games," or "where are all the good men???!?!?!"
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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This. I always find it odd that in online dating profiles, a lot of the single mothers will say something like, "My child(ren) are my number one priority, if you can't handle that, then keep moving!"
It's such a turnoff.
Interesting. While I find the phrasing a turn off, the idea of course is accurate. I wouldn't want to date a mother that didn't have her child be her number one priority. I wouldn't have respect for her if she put me ahead of the kid.
Interesting. While I find the phrasing a turn off, the idea of course is accurate. I wouldn't want to date a mother that didn't have her child be her number one priority. I wouldn't have respect for her if she put me ahead of the kid.
You're right, the idea is accurate. But then the question becomes, why would a man, all things being equal, want to date her?
I think dating single mothers is for guys with fewer options. Because, again, given the choice between kids/no kids....a single guy with no kids will pick the childless woman almost every time.
This. I always find it odd that in online dating profiles, a lot of the single mothers will say something like, "My child(ren) are my number one priority, if you can't handle that, then keep moving!"
It's such a turnoff.
I just imagine in my head, "The highest priority you'll ever be in my life is #2, barring anything else important going on in my life. So really, you may drop down to #4, 5 or 6 if conditions are right."
Meh...no thanks...pass.
Also, on my local POF, there are at least a couple of women who are under 30 and have 4 (!!!) children, and there ad title is something to the effect of "tired of lies and games," or "where are all the good men???!?!?!"
Meh...I'll pass on those, too.
Everything you named is a complete red flag. I wouldn't want anything to do with women like that either.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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You're right, the idea is accurate. But then the question becomes, why would a man, all things being equal, want to date her?
I think dating single mothers is for guys with fewer options. Because, again, given the choice between kids/no kids....a single guy with no kids will pick the childless woman almost every time.
Well, you may be right, but that isn't me. In some ways dating a mother is more preferable. Mainly due to the time demands. She has less free time so there is less demand on my time to go out. Once, maybe twice a week we have a date and that is all that they can fit in and all I usually want no matter how much I like her.
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