What can I do to stop gay men from hitting me on all the time? (advice, sexy)
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Ain't any laws against looking. My favorite ex was a rather scary-looking biker - he would occasionally draw attention from gay men who are into the "bear" type. He just took it as further confirmation that he was a particularly outstanding specimen of manhood.
Regardless, I do get hit on by lesbians quite often when I'm up in the bay area, and did have a lovely woman ask me out when I was in NYC last time. I just laugh and tell them I'm not into the ladies and I've never had a negative response thus far. In fact, I usually invite them out with us or vice versa. Sometimes I wish I were a lesbian...life would be easier.
On the same token, if I was gay, I'd be in paradise.
Hi there, I'm a 26 year old Latino guy from New York City and I'm constantly getting hit on by gay men> This happens mostly on public transportation (subways and buses) and its getting annoying, not to mention I get offended by it because I'm totally straight and I have no interest in men at all. Any advice on what to do to prevent this? Or maybe its something on the way I dress that's giving off a false vibe to those people? I really don't know why this keeps happening to me but its getting annoying and one of these days I'm gonna end up cursing one of those guys out in front of everyone. That's how annoying this is starting to become.
Oh and please if ya gonna comment this, don't give me no stupid/dumb or irrelevant comments, if you're the one to comment BS I would prefer you keep your comments to yourself. Thanks
Just ignore them. Tell yourself that they are just wishing they looked as good as you do! They can probably tell that it makes you uncomfortable. I call this "bullying". And, as far as the way you dress, dressing differently does not discourage men from sexual harassing females so dress in what you want to wear. You don't need to change yourself. Hold your head up and turn away from their stares. Show confidence since people like this tend to pick on anyone that becomes self-conscious. So, it's not you, it is THEM! I can't stand people that harass others this way! Always remember that "you reap what you sow" and their turn will come.
You may also want to consider that the straight men I know who are at ease with being hit on by gay men are also the same men that I know who tend to have women throwing themselves at them. Confidence and not allowing other people to define you can go a long way to causing other people to find you attractive. My scary biker ex, my middle-aged British friend and my younger hipster buddy who is a bit androgynous are all very at ease with who they are and they get hit on by men pretty frequently. They are also inundated by women to an embarrassing degree.
Please keep in mind also that gay men are MEN. Men are constantly looking. It's just what y'all do.
Stop breaking out in dance every time you hear Ricky Martin's "Living la vida loca."
This is good advice. Also, never mention Diana Ross more than once in the same sentence.
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