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Protest too much and be called a homophobe. Strike out and hit the guy and you get locked up for a hate crime. It's ok that you are offended and even angry, but since its a crime to be a proud straight man in the United States you have to just deal with the abuse (once they see your uncomfortable with it they do it more, and letting them get away with it is called tolerance), so the only advice one can legally give is walk away.
Why not just say 'no thanks, I'm straight' and leave it at that?
And please, let me know how 'proud straight men' are being punished for being just that...especially considering a majority of the men out there ARE straight men?
Protest too much and be called a homophobe. Strike out and hit the guy and you get locked up for a hate crime.
Wow, you'd hit a guy just because he found you attractive? Why?
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It's ok that you are offended and even angry, but since its a crime to be a proud straight man in the United States you have to just deal with the abuse (once they see your uncomfortable with it they do it more, and letting them get away with it is called tolerance), so the only advice one can legally give is walk away.
If that's the case (and there's no way it is 100% of the time), then simply don't act uncomfortable. It's not hard to do unless you have some burning hatred for homosexuals. Quite frankly, the few times I've had gay men hit on me (admittedly rare), I was just polite and honest with them, and as a result they were polite and apologetic in return. Sure, there will be the occasional gay man who won't take it well, just as there are plenty of straight men who completely lose their **** when a woman turns them down.
You're comparing a man hitting on a women, to a gay dude hitting on a straight guy? Really?
What's the difference?
Yes, it's an apt comparison.
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Just ignore them. Tell yourself that they are just wishing they looked as good as you do! They can probably tell that it makes you uncomfortable. I call this "bullying". And, as far as the way you dress, dressing differently does not discourage men from sexual harassing females so dress in what you want to wear. You don't need to change yourself. Hold your head up and turn away from their stares. Show confidence since people like this tend to pick on anyone that becomes self-conscious. So, it's not you, it is THEM! I can't stand people that harass others this way! Always remember that "you reap what you sow" and their turn will come.
Showing interest is bullying?
This is as absurd as it gets.
Maybe that's your behavior and motive, but not everyone else's.
It's been a recurring problem for me, but i have learned to take it as a compliment. I just say that I am flattered, but I'm not gay. Women look at me, too, which is a relief.
Hi there, I'm a 26 year old Latino guy from New York City and I'm constantly getting hit on by gay men> This happens mostly on public transportation (subways and buses) and its getting annoying, not to mention I get offended by it because I'm totally straight and I have no interest in men at all. Any advice on what to do to prevent this? Or maybe its something on the way I dress that's giving off a false vibe to those people? I really don't know why this keeps happening to me but its getting annoying and one of these days I'm gonna end up cursing one of those guys out in front of everyone. That's how annoying this is starting to become.
Oh and please if ya gonna comment this, don't give me no stupid/dumb or irrelevant comments, if you're the one to comment BS I would prefer you keep your comments to yourself. Thanks
Protest too much and be called a homophobe. Strike out and hit the guy and you get locked up for a hate crime. It's ok that you are offended and even angry, but since its a crime to be a proud straight man in the United States you have to just deal with the abuse (once they see your uncomfortable with it they do it more, and letting them get away with it is called tolerance), so the only advice one can legally give is walk away.
Hah, no. It's a crime to hit someone for looking at you.
... I do get hit on by lesbians quite often when I'm up in the bay area, and did have a lovely woman ask me out when I was in NYC last time....
I can understand it happening in SF or NYC. My wife got propositioned by a gal in a little cowboy bar in Moorcroft, WY a few years ago. I was sitting next to her! Moorcroft is a tiny ranching town of under 1000. We were perplexed but have had lots of laughs about it.
Did I understand the OP to say these guys are simply staring at him, not actually approaching? If so, that's hardly "hitting on".
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