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Particularly when as in the original post, the purported "hitting on" is someone looking at you. You can't do a damned thing about someone looking at you (and I wouldn't assume that someone looking at you means that they're interested, either...that seems rather presumptuous). Yet there are posts that indicate that beating somebody down for looking at you is a perfectly reasonable response.
Particularly when as in the original post, the purported "hitting on" is someone looking at you. You can't do a damned thing about someone looking at you (and I wouldn't assume that someone looking at you means that they're interested, either...that seems rather presumptuous). Yet there are posts that indicate that beating somebody down for looking at you is a perfectly reasonable response.
I thought about that as well, and I thought to myself "maybe they are looking at him because he is funny looking"
Hi there, I'm a 26 year old Latino guy from New York City and I'm constantly getting hit on by gay men> This happens mostly on public transportation (subways and buses) and its getting annoying, not to mention I get offended by it because I'm totally straight and I have no interest in men at all. Any advice on what to do to prevent this? Or maybe its something on the way I dress that's giving off a false vibe to those people? I really don't know why this keeps happening to me but its getting annoying and one of these days I'm gonna end up cursing one of those guys out in front of everyone. That's how annoying this is starting to become.
Oh and please if ya gonna comment this, don't give me no stupid/dumb or irrelevant comments, if you're the one to comment BS I would prefer you keep your comments to yourself. Thanks
Think about it this way.
I take it as a compliment, politely tell them I'm not interested and leave it at that. No need to get twisted over it. Guys find you attractive, no big deal.
9 times out of 10, he'll leave me alone after I tell him that I strictly prefer to be with women. Never really had to get violent with a gay guy except to set the drunk ones straight who get obsessive and persistent. Those are the queers who believe my crotch needs to be acquainted with their grabbing hands. That's a big time no-no. I don't even like chicks grabbing at my package unless I get to squeeze a boob or a butt cheek in return. Eye for an eye principle.
Getting hit on by a gay guy has nothing to do with your own image as a man. Homosexuals are attracted to a wide variety of body types and personalities just like straight people. It also has nothing to do with coming across as feminine as a straight guy if you get hit on by gay guys. Masculinity and femininity should really have nothing to do with sexual orientation but it does. That's the fault of our society and the sexual socialization of our species in the process.
Don't be a homophobe and get ignorant with these men. They find you attractive for a reason and at least they have the balls to say so or do so. Definitely more entertaining than the ladies with attitude who stand, watch, admire themselves and do nothing but get their egos fed by the guys who approach them.
Sometimes I wish women were a little bit more brazen when approaching guys instead of counting and waiting on how many guys they can stamp with the "creep" label who hit on them. That's one good thing about gay guys. I'm less likely to be called a creep even though I have no sexual interest in them.
In Nyc,you don't EVER look at anyone for anything.
I notice people from other parts of the country are saying take it as a compliment or they probably aren't thinking about you,they just happened to look in your direction.
Butits pretty rude to look at anyone in Nyc.
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Hi there, I'm a 26 year old Latino guy from New York City and I'm constantly getting hit on by gay men> This happens mostly on public transportation (subways and buses) and its getting annoying, not to mention I get offended by it because I'm totally straight and I have no interest in men at all. Any advice on what to do to prevent this? Or maybe its something on the way I dress that's giving off a false vibe to those people? I really don't know why this keeps happening to me but its getting annoying and one of these days I'm gonna end up cursing one of those guys out in front of everyone. That's how annoying this is starting to become.
Oh and please if ya gonna comment this, don't give me no stupid/dumb or irrelevant comments, if you're the one to comment BS I would prefer you keep your comments to yourself. Thanks
Hi there, I'm a 26 year old Latino guy from New York City and I'm constantly getting hit on by gay men> This happens mostly on public transportation (subways and buses) and its getting annoying, not to mention I get offended by it because I'm totally straight and I have no interest in men at all. Any advice on what to do to prevent this? Or maybe its something on the way I dress that's giving off a false vibe to those people? I really don't know why this keeps happening to me but its getting annoying and one of these days I'm gonna end up cursing one of those guys out in front of everyone. That's how annoying this is starting to become.
Oh and please if ya gonna comment this, don't give me no stupid/dumb or irrelevant comments, if you're the one to comment BS I would prefer you keep your comments to yourself. Thanks
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Originally Posted by Camlon
Maybe you dress to well. Most men in New York don't dress very well, especially among hispanics. Gays are attracted to well dressed men.
Also I guess the gay percentage in New York is higher, so that's something New Yorkers have to expect.
I know how you feel (sadly) because I'm in the same boat. I dress well, I make efforts to smell good at all times, I keep my teeth cleaned, ect, ect, because not only do I like to take care of myself, but I like to look good for the LADIES.
Unfortunately, gay men are highly attracted to men who are well groomed, and the difference between gay men and women is that gay men will approach a man where as a woman who is interested will only make eye contact or maybe a small comment. Women are just not as aggressive as men are unless the man is famous.
Anyhow OP, you really have no choice but to ignore them, and in some rare cases, you're going to have to pull the guy to the side and tell them to leave you alone.
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