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I'd call him on that lie. No can deal with some ******* who'd videotape me giving him a BJ without my permission.
see below. that's how i interpreted it at least
i actually agree with you, that maybe it's worth having a talk or whatever before the dumping, rather than go straight to dumping. since they've been going out 2 years i think
but probably a dumping
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I stopped and tried to confront him, he swore it wasn't a camera and he might of pressed it by mistake, he said his friend just send him some gross photo of a body (don't ask)...
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When I got home I sent him a message "thanks for the great trip. P.S. I'm gonna kill you if you didn't delete those videos" once again he swore a dozen times that it's all in my head, and that "what belongs to you and me is only ours" "don't you trust me" "I'll always protect you" and all kinds of BS that seemed like he just copied from 'how to tell your GF what she wants to hear'.
i actually agree with you, that maybe it's worth having a talk or whatever before the dumping, rather than go straight to dumping. since they've been going out 2 years i think
but probably a dumping
Ahhh. Yes. I would sit him down. Tell him I knew he did it and there was no need to deny it.
Then, if he did not confess? I'd bail.
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Ahhh. Yes. I would sit him down. Tell him I knew he did it and there was no need to deny it.
Then, if he did not confess? I'd bail.
And if he didn't. Should you break up with him because he doesn't want to admit doing something he never did.
The right advice has been given before. The right step is to talk about it and have good communication. Then when he has told his side of the story and you have let some time pass, then you do what you feel is right.
People have a tendency to jump to conclusions. It is not healthy for long term relationships.
And if he didn't. Should you break up with him because he doesn't want to admit doing something he never did.
The right advice has been given before. The right step is to talk about it and have good communication. Then when he has told his side of the story and you have let some time pass, then you do what you feel is right.
People have a tendency to jump to conclusions. It is not healthy for long term relationships.
She already tried to talk to him about this.
He has denied doing what her gut instincts tell her she knows he did.
Again, the bottom line is, she does not trust him.
Whether or not her mistrust is valid is not the point.
Once you do not trust your partner the relationship in doomed.
He has denied doing what her gut instincts tell her she knows he did.
Again, the bottom line is, she does not trust him.
Whether or not her mistrust is valid is not the point.
Once you do not trust your partner the relationship in doomed.
That is complete hogwash. Many couples have experienced periods where they don't trust eachother, and they are still together and happy. Trust can be regained over time with effective communication.
Relationships have their ups and downs, if we all broke up with our girlfriend/boyfriends in the down periods, then we would all be single.
And if he didn't. Should you break up with him because he doesn't want to admit doing something he never did.
assuming the OP is accurately describing the situation, he certainly did it. no one checks their god damned text messages to look at gross pictures from their goofy friends while getting a beej, nor do they set alarm clocks on their phone while getting a beej. they do however take pictures while getting a beej
that's why we're all raring to go the dump him route. not because we don't believe in effective communication. i do agree with you on the ups and down stuff, it's just that this thread is completely different depending on whether one assumes he is guilty or not
personally i do, it's the kind of odds i wish i could find at vegas so i could bet my entire life savings on it
assuming the OP is accurately describing the situation, he certainly did it. no one checks their god damned text messages to look at gross pictures from their goofy friends while getting a beej, nor do they set alarm clocks on their phone while getting a beej. they do however take pictures while getting a beej
that's why we're all raring to go the dump him route. not because we don't believe in effective communication. i do agree with you on the ups and down stuff, it's just that this thread is completely different depending on whether one assumes he is guilty or not
personally i do, it's the kind of odds i wish i could find at vegas so i could bet my entire life savings on it
Well, I am not 100% certain OP is accurately describing the situation or that I didn't misunderstand her. We will never be able to understand the situation completely without being there. Hence, it should be up to the OP to evaluate if he is lying or not.
But anyway, if you guys focused more of your time arguing your case that he was lying, instead of just assuming he is guilty and then ranting about him, then OP would probably have listened more.
People jump to conclusions too fast. Someone even said it was 100% likely that he had filmed her by video camera too and he might be selling them on the internet. Where is the proof of that? Remember, this is her boyfriend she has been with for 2 years, not some creepy stranger.
She already has proof that his phone is more important to him than intimacy with her. That's all the proof she needs. Her sexual services are playing second fiddle to his phone, and texts from his friends. I guess she doesn't feel it's important to have his full attention during the most intimate acts of bonding that humans are capable of.
I could see treating a paid sex worker like that. But not someone a guy claims to love.
It doesn't matter whether he's taken videos or not. He's treating her no better than a sex worker. And she seems to be ok with that. What a tragedy!
But anyway, if you guys focused more of your time arguing your case that he was lying
i did argue the case. i pointed out how incredibly unlikely it was that johnny boyfriend was more interested in alarm clocks and gross-out pics than his favorite nerve endings getting licked and stroked
i have yet to see a reasonable refutation of this
just seems like an obvious case of walking like a duck, quacking like a duck, whipping out his phone during oral sex like a duck...
It doesn't matter whether he's taken videos or not.
it actually does matter. if, due to some bizarre miscommunication on the part of the OP (like perhaps the phone was only out just prior to the oral sex or whatever), he didn't take a video, then the entire story changes
i just don't think that's likely. guys like to watch their own porn so much that given the described circumstances it seems incredibly obvious he was filming or taking pics
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