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Um.. people are not perfect. Breaking up with someone due to one issue, is ridiculous.
No, the mature thing to do is not immediately hit the break up button, but talk about it.
Talk about what? How wrong it is for him to have his cell phone in his hands during any sexual encounter let alone with someone you are supposed to be in love with?
Talk about how many friends he has shown this video to?
Talk about how many videos he has made in the time they have been together?
Talk about her lack of trust in him?
What is there to talk about when the trust is already gone? Absolutely NOTHING.
How would you like it if your spouse (or whatever they are) had a camera in their hands everytime you have a sexual encounter with them?
I wonder where he hid the video camera in their bedroom and how much he charges to view the videos online.
When the "issue" is trust and a lack of it, that is no small thing.
For various reasons she can't trust this guy - the end.
So she should break up with him, because she is insecure?
I seriously don't get you guys. Lets think of my girlfriend. If she did something that made me insecure about her, would I immediately break up with her? Of course not. The reason I am with her in the first place is because she quite amazing. Instead I would talk about the issue, and we would try to resolve the issue together. I am not going to throw away a good relationship, because she did one thing I didn't like.
If you can do that, then I don't think your relationship was very good in the first place.
So she should break up with him, because she is insecure?
I seriously don't get you guys. Lets think of my girlfriend. If she did something that made me insecure about her, would I immediately break up with her? Of course not. The reason I am with her in the first place is because she quite amazing. Instead I would talk about the issue, and we would try to resolve the issue together. I am not going to throw away a good relationship, because she did one thing I didn't like.
If you can do that, then I don't think your relationship was very good in the first place.
You let us know how that goes when you lose trust in her because of one little thing she did that you don't like.
So she should break up with him, because she is insecure?
I seriously don't get you guys. Lets think of my girlfriend. If she did something that made me insecure about her, would I immediately break up with her? Of course not. The reason I am with her in the first place is because she quite amazing. Instead I would talk about the issue, and we would try to resolve the issue together. I am not going to throw away a good relationship, because she did one thing I didn't like.
If you can do that, then I don't think your relationship was very good in the first place.
Her gut instincts are screaming at her that he cannot be trusted.
She would be a fool to ignore these instincts.
His behavior has been very suspect and bottom line, she does not trust him.
Once that happens, the relationship is dead in the water.
Talk about what? How wrong it is for him to have his cell phone in his hands during any sexual encounter let alone with someone you are supposed to be in love with?
Talk about how many friends he has shown this video to?
Talk about how many videos he has made in the time they have been together?
Talk about her lack of trust in him?
You do realize (as far as I am aware) that she has zero proof that he took a video of her. If she does find out, then I said feel free to break up with him.
And yes mature couples talk about their issues, not break up over the smallest things.
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How would you like it if your spouse (or whatever they are) had a camera in their hands everytime you have a sexual encounter with them?
Every time? Camera, not phone? That doesn't sound like this topic. If she did, I would ask her to cut it out and she would.
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I wonder where he hid the video camera in their bedroom and how much he charges to view the videos online.
In all likelihood, no one will pay you for your home made porn.
Your boyfriend is a tool. No REAL MAN shows his buddies his private stuff with his girlfriend. A hoe off the street? Yes..GF/Wife-NO!! (not unless you're swingers and it doesn't sound like that)
Your boyfriend is untrustworthy, a liar, and he has no respect for you. That you would even entertain the thought of being involved with someone like that is a sad commentary on you.
You do realize (as far as I am aware) that she has zero proof that he took a video of her.
Video = IRRELEVANT! He's not fully present during one of the most intimate and intense of sex acts. He's playing with his phone, for god's sake! And he does this on a regular basis--gets distracted just at the prime moment for him!
This is SUCH a bogus relationship, on that basis alone!
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 08-14-2013 at 11:18 PM..
You do realize (as far as I am aware) that she has zero proof that he took a video of her. If she does find out, then I said feel free to break up with him.
And yes mature couples talk about their issues, not break up over the smallest things.
Did you miss the part where she said she's tried to discuss it with him several times, and has even seen what looked like a cut of video footage of her in the act, but he denies it everytime? GET IT?? He DENIES it when she tries to discuss it. He's not allowing discussion, and he certainly has no intention of complying with her wishes. Just because your gf would comply with whatever you asked her to stop doing doesn't mean everyone is as compliant and above-board as your gf.
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