I think my BF took a video of me...

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by houstan-dan

Providing sex services? Is that what it is? She can't enjoy it. Heaven forbid that. .

Oh yeah, women having sex with men is doing the MAN a favor. You are such a joke ruth. Honestly you obvious hate for men in all your threads is sickening

Providing BJ's tends to be a "man favor". A lot of women don't like doing it, but go along to please their guy. Some women refuse to do it altogether.

So....meh.

[elnina]

Originally Posted by everlasting5

We went on vacation this past weekend, but the night before we left we were having sex and while I was giving him a BJ (sorry for all the details) he took his phone out said "I'll just set the alarm so we won't be late"...I didn't think much of it even though the thought he might be pointing a camera at me did cross my mind for a sec...but I kept going (it wasn't the first time he took his phone out in a time like this, but this time the angle he was pointing it made me suspicious)...then I got even more paranoid when I tried to grab it from his hand and told him "not now", indeed I saw the video camera screen...

Did you checked Facebook? Maybe you're already a star!

BTW: If he really wanted to set up the alarm while you were doing BJ that would only mean that he was bored with it. Now show me a guy who is bored with BJ!!
So, I am 99.9999% sure that he took picture of you, and probably showing it around.

Lesson for you: Next time you see someone touching a phone while you are having sex, or naked, or whatever situation you don't want the whole world to know about - stop what are you doing, and don't let anyone take a picture of you.

[Kin Atoms]

There should be a two-day moratorium on this issue so we can hear what the OP did next. Get back to us please, OP, when you have more information. The count is in, though results put him in the balance: he is a D-bag, a fellow who's hot for you, has poor insight and judgment, took this vid, took other vids and pics, posted them, couldn't export them from his phone, lied to you, is someone you can't leave for the duration of time spent (I bet you would have had a hard time leaving appendicitis or getting braces taken off), is someone who really loves you, is someone you'd have a hard time replacing... (I think I touched most bases).

Yeah, get back to us. This is all conjecture without further support of other activity. We'll wait.

<goes outside, taps his feet, starts small talk with a neighbor>

[OttoR]

Originally Posted by everlasting5

We went on vacation this past weekend, but the night before we left we were having sex and while I was giving him a BJ (sorry for all the details) he took his phone out said "I'll just set the alarm so we won't be late"...I didn't think much of it even though the thought he might be pointing a camera at me did cross my mind for a sec...but I kept going (it wasn't the first time he took his phone out in a time like this, but this time the angle he was pointing it made me suspicious)...then I got even more paranoid when I tried to grab it from his hand and told him "not now", indeed I saw the video camera screen...
I stopped and tried to confront him, he swore it wasn't a camera and he might of pressed it by mistake, he said his friend just send him some gross photo of a body (don't ask)...
he put the phone down and I tried to believe him.
Next day I forgot all about it because we were having a great time, but I remembered it at night...he showed me that body photos to show he's not lying so I calmed down once more.
The day AFTER that, when we got back home (to his place) he was showing some photos to a friend that was with us on vacation and he got to the part where the vacation photos ended...
I couldn't see clearly but I did see something that looked like skin (it was a video so you can't really see what's going on just in the album).
When I got home I sent him a message "thanks for the great trip. P.S. I'm gonna kill you if you didn't delete those videos" once again he swore a dozen times that it's all in my head, and that "what belongs to you and me is only ours" "don't you trust me" "I'll always protect you" and all kinds of BS that seemed like he just copied from 'how to tell your GF what she wants to hear'.
I tried to make a joke (in case I AM being paranoid) and said "you do know that if anybody every sees a sex tape with me I'm gonna have to change my name and move to the north pole right?"
I'm supposed to see him again this weekend, and no matter how many times he tried to calm me down my intuition just tells me something's not right...and unfortunately, my intuition's never wrong.
I really don't know what to do...
I thought about confronting him again saying "either you show me all you photo/vid album and let me make sure it's not what I think it is, or I'm calling a cab and you'll never see me again!"
But it has been a week, and there's a chance he deleted them already (he doesn't move stuff to his computer so that's okay), in that case I'll just look like a psycho gf...
But I also can't just let it be...I can't sleep at night thinking what if a video like that actually exists...
and even though I hear the north pole is pretty nice this time of year, I really don't feel like moving there.

I'm really sorry for all the long whining but either I'm paranoid, or I'm right.
What would you do in my case?

I doubt you're being paranoid - LISTEN TO YOUR INSTINCTS. Ditch this guy! Even if he didn't, which I highly suspect he did and is lying, wth takes out their phone to set their alarm while getting a bj? That's just flat out disrespectful and rude. He sounds like tool and you can bet all his buddies have now see you in action, or it's uploaded to pornhub!

[OttoR]

Great - just realized this post was resurrected from 5 years ago!

Mod comment: True, this ^ . It was resurrected by a spammer and the spam post has been deleted. The thread is now closed.