Not getting beyond the first/second date in LA (girlfriend, loving, cheaters)

[jm1982]

I'd say that probably is the idea of success for men everywhere not just la.

Much of the reason men want to make money , have fancy cars , etc is to attract women .

It could be seen as sad , but what is more sad , that scenario or the guy that doesn't get any action . ?

There are a lot of guys that would prob kill to live Charlie sheens lifestyle .

[Teckeeee]

I just want Charlie's money he can keep the d bags and leeches.

[Tex?Il?]

Originally Posted by majoun

I don't. I'd rather have women from just about any other non-Islamic culture than that of L.A.'s culture of entitlement.

Sometimes I even wish that Roe v. Wade was overturned so more women would leave the heartland states again and come to L.A. That would probably be the only thing that could reverse the trend of L.A. losing more people to Texas than it attracts.

Most people.women I've met that are the materialistic, entitled, superficial are transplants from middle america living out some kind of fantasy created by the media. The nat

And how in the world does Roe v. Wade have anything to do with this conversation? Seems kind of random.

And why in the world would you think Texas is any better. Texas embodies materialism in America more than anywhere else. Haven't you heard "everythings bigger in Texas?" People move to Texas so they can afford a mansion and live the 30,000 a year millionaire lifestyle because they can. Anyone who actually cares about things like outdoor recreation, staying healthy, living in cities and towns with charm and culture generally don't move to Texas outside a couple places.

[jm1982]

Yeah and the sad part is people see these transplants and assume they represent la !


I heard today that New York cities population turns over so much that 50 percent of the population didn't live there 10 years ago ... I wonder what it is in la.

[rgb123]

Originally Posted by jm1982

I'd say that probably is the idea of success for men everywhere not just la.

Much of the reason men want to make money , have fancy cars , etc is to attract women .

It could be seen as sad , but what is more sad , that scenario or the guy that doesn't get any action . ?

There are a lot of guys that would prob kill to live Charlie sheens lifestyle .

fortunately there are a lot of guys that don't define success that way. If you do, yes you will have problems in life.

Charlie Sheen and his lifestyle is a joke to most people, including most men. It's sad really anyone would aspire to that.

I just hope if that's the goal you are honest with women about it. Then go for it if they know its just for sex. If most women know that, they are out. Make sure to be up front and you will find the few women that that want the same thing.

[EclecticEars]

Men are generally simple creatures: do what it takes to get laid.

The fact that this thread even exists proves that no matter how many editions of Cosmo, Glamour, and other BS magazines women pick up, "read," then blab on and on and on about while strolling The Sunglass Hut or waiting to get their hair done in the salon or whatever... Pardon the last location examples as just being stereotypes, but it proves that women are NO more socially intelligent than men, no matter how much they might think they are, and really are as weak or weaker than men in giving into whatever instincts they might have.

This is in no way to imply that men aren't horn dogs that make their decisions on dating by how "nice" a woman is. Look at how many men, however nice and responsible they may be, are with a woman who is naggy and b*tchy.

The fact that men chase after 20% of the most sexually-desirable women and woman chase after 20% of the most alpha/"successful" men demonstrate how shallow we can be in the western world.

[rgb123]

right, now go to Walmart and sample your statistics. Fat, ugly, poor people get married and commit to families all the time.

And, most women date with the intention of being in a comitted monogmous relationship, most likely marriage. particularly the young hotties everyone is talking about.

Go tell them all you just want to get laid. Some will go for it. Let the ones go who actually don't want to waste their time on you.

Plenty of people have been injured by just this type of narcissistic bull crap (both men and women) and lies are usually a part of the equation.

sorry, but there are good men out there who pride themselves on their families, not scoring as many stupid chicks as possible.

I'm not even a man and i'm offended by how 'all men' are painted to be narcissistic jerks who have no ambition other than making money and screwing young women. (mentally and physically)

[Chatteress]

Originally Posted by new to LA

Hi
I moved to LA a few years back from a different country to go to Med school. It was hard to get in but worth the effort. I have a busy schedule and its hard to meet new people.

I have dated a few girls now. The problem is that there have been more than a few occasions now where I think it would be worth investing time dating this girl. Somehow, the woman loses interest or is not attracted anymore or feels we have different interests.

I have had no problems getting a first date. We usually meet over coffee and end up getting dinner and have a good conversation. I pay the bill as I think its the right thing to do for a guy. Most dates have ended well with a passionate kiss or a not so passionate kiss. I don't know whats goes wrong after that? Is that I'm being too nice.
I usually text or call the day after the first date and there is no response. Here is the reply I get a few days after:
"It was really nice meeting you. I think you are handsome, nice and intelligent but unfortunately we are on different pages right now."

Is it lack of physical attraction? Should I ask to split the bill, is me paying the bill being too nice ? Is it that our interests, goals don't match?

I'm posting this here as I think hearing from men/women who've been living in LA would help. Frank opinions will be appreciated. Have a nice weekend!

Maybe the bolded is the issue ... Many women, myself included, would be put off by the expectations of a "passionate kiss" after only one date. Women need their boundaries and many would feel threatened by a guy who is pushing for a kiss. Try not to be too forward and make sure you are showing interest in her versus monopolizing the time with chatter about yourself. Hope this helps.

[AnthonyCburn]

Originally Posted by rgb123

I'm not even a man and i'm offended by how 'all men' are painted to be narcissistic jerks who have no ambition other than making money and screwing young women. (mentally and physically)

Well, duh!


You have spent a lot of energy in this thread trying to convince everyone that there are so many men out there who think the way you believe they should. And then you take men who are actually telling you how they and their buddies feel about dating, and you blow it off as if THEY are the ones who are out in left field, and it's hilarious to see you trying to convince these guys of how men really feel.

[rgb123]

Right ok, all men want a life like Charlie Sheen.

I know there is a sizable male population that is narcissistic and bipolar and I try to avoid them. I'm sure there is also a large population of immature self-absorbed no morals at all men on this board.

But its not exactly a representative sample of the US Thank God. But it does give me pause about ever considering to move to LA.

It does seem worse here. For both sexes.