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OP, personally I don't think you did anything wrong at all. Your boyfriend needs to calm down and if he has any issues he needs to talk to you about them rather than arguing as that never solves anything. Reassure him that you love him and wouldn't cheat however make sure he isn't treating you badly or trying to manipulate you and your decisions
women who go out drinking with out their men are all up to the same tricks. Well the young ones, at least. I can't belive there are dudes who fall for this stuff.
Hey, OP, did your boyfriend see your posting and get on to the thread? ^^^^^^^^
I'm not "an angry person" at all but if that's your assumption then so be it. For you to have reached the conclusion that such behavior is "very common" seems to indicate that your (hopefully limited) experience with women and relationships has been very sad which in itself is a great pity and I feel for you. Hopefully such a negative assumption will be dispelled as time goes on. Good luck!
I feel nothing for you since I don't get emotionally wrapped up in anonymous Internet handles, but thank you for allowing me into your emotional being.
As for the rest of your post...
I am a woman who has seen what I noted countless times and in fact have declined allowing married women to go out drinking with me for for that very reason. You are either naive or simply dishonest to argue that what I have said isn't a common orgin of female infidelity. Most likely you are a bit of both, and are so angry at the world, (feminism I guess?) intellectual dishonesty is a regular part of your life.
I am a woman who has seen what I noted countless times and in fact have declined allowing married women to go out drinking with me for for that very reason. You are either naive or simply dishonest to argue that what I have said isn't a common orgin of female infidelity. Most likely you are a bit of both, and are so angry at the world, (feminism I guess?) intellectual dishonesty is a regular part of your life.
I feel nothing for you since I don't get emotionally wrapped up in anonymous Internet handles, but thank you for allowing me into your emotional being and for the extensive and quite hilarious psychobabble.
To the OP -- you did nothing wrong. Your BF's reaction was out of line, not just him being "overprotective" or treating you like a "delicate flower." I'm not saying it was abusive, or that he is abusive, but his reaction smacks strongly of insecurity + control issues, two things that can often come together in the form of abuse.
My husband worries about me, and I keep thinking about his reaction in this situation. He would be more worried if drunk/tired me took a cab by myself late at night, rather than just stayed safe at a friend's house until the morning.
I don't understand this idea that because you're married/living together that you must spend every night for the rest of your lives forever sleeping in the same bed. The grand majority of nights? Yes. Absolutely. But if you're insecure to the point that your SO can't have a weekend trip away with their friends, spend the occasional night over at their sibling's house, or as in this case, have a spontaneous justified sleepover with a friend after a night of drinking, you're in the wrong relationship and may have no business being in one at all.
Well if for instance the friend is a single party girl, I can understand him not liking your spending too much time together. It is very common for women to cheat after being inspired by hanging out and partying a lot with their single girlfriends. I don't know that this is the case, my point is merely that we don't know the whole story here.
That's more the case for men. You're speaking of hook-ups. Married women tend to have affairs, not hook-ups and it's usually with people they get to know over time like at work, not ONS's via partying. Anyhow, taking issue with a partner's friends, whether married or not, speaks to a person who has dysfunctional relationships. I bet this man has had the same problems with other women he couldn't control.
I feel nothing for you since I don't get emotionally wrapped up in anonymous Internet handles, but thank you for allowing me into your emotional being and for the extensive and quite hilarious psychobabble.
Too late for this song and dance, nice try, sour grapes and all that:
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I'm not "an angry person" at all but if that's your assumption then so be it. For you to have reached the conclusion that such behavior is "very common" seems to indicate that your (hopefully limited) experience with women and relationships has been very sad which in itself is a great pity and I feel for you. Hopefully such a negative assumption will be dispelled as time goes on. Good luck!
That's more the case for men. You're speaking of hook-ups. Married women tend to have affairs, not hook-ups and it's usually with people they get to know over time like at work, not ONS's via partying. Anyhow, taking issue with a partner's friends, whether married or not, speaks to a person who has dysfunctional relationships. I bet this man has had the same problems with other women he couldn't control.
I disagree. Married women hook up as single ones do; some have "affairs" and some do not. (I think married women are simply better at keeping their mouths shut about it.) And cheating men will do it if an opportunity presents itself regardless of what their friends are doing.
I disagree. Married women hook up as single ones do; some have "affairs" and some do not. (I think married women are simply better at keeping their mouths shut about it.) And cheating men will do it if an opportunity presents itself regardless of what their friends are doing.
Women do not hook up like men do (unemotional sex that could be had with anyone) independent of relationship status. This isn't news.
This article covers some ground.
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But today, married women are more likely to spend late hours at the office and travel on business. And even for women who stay home, cellphones, e-mail and instant messaging appear to be allowing them to form more intimate relationships, marriage therapists say. Dr. Frank Pittman, an Atlanta psychiatrist who specializes in family crisis and couples therapy, says he has noticed more women talking about affairs centered on “electronic” contact.
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