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Difference is men admit looks are part of the equation alot of women pretend that looks dont matter
Blowing off women's opinions again! What's the point of a discussion forum if half the posters completely blow off the other half of the membership? Why don't you go post on an all-male forum?
This is exactly one way this forum is harmful--it routinely trashes the women posters and invalidates their contributions.
Yes, that's true. But here's the difference. Ready?
Men approach. Chew on that and then get back to me.
Some women do too (won't say all because I know that's not true). But even if you are the type to wait to be approached, it's no picnic having all sorts of men approaching (think about it, would you really "like" old women, older than your grandmother making sexual innuendos at you? Would you like women who smell like they haven't showered approach you? What about a woman who looks strung out?). And if you refuse any of these women you know there is a chance they are going to get angry and cuss you out. And then of course there are women who hardly if ever get approached.
So the end result (if things don't work out) is the same if you are a man or a woman, you feel rejected and you have no control. Neither is "Easy" or "better" and both have pluses and minus. (In case you are wondering, the plus of approaching is you get to choose the person... waiting to be approached, you get whoever will approach you).
My point, it all comes out in the wash and isn't a cake walk for either sex.
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Originally Posted by JBT1980
Difference is men admit looks are part of the equation alot of women pretend that looks dont matter
I don't think anyone here has ever said looks don't matter at all... women have responded "no" to threads that say ALL that women care about is looks. And there have been a lot of those.
Blowing off women's opinions again! What's the point of a discussion forum if half the posters completely blow off the other half of the membership? Why don't you go post on an all-male forum?
This is exactly one way this forum is harmful--it routinely trashes the women posters and invalidates their contributions.
The poster i responded to was a female who admitted looks get your foot in the door
The poster i responded to was a female who admitted looks get your foot in the door
How often do you read people on this forum who say looks don't matter? I really don't see it that much. Most of the time when I do it's something along the lines of "looks don't matter that much. I'm open to different types" or something to that effect.
How often do you read people on this forum who say looks don't matter? I really don't see it that much. Most of the time when I do it's something along the lines of "looks don't matter that much. I'm open to different types" or something to that effect.
You haven't read anything from NilaJones have you? lol
These forums are dangerous in general because they are like any kind of "too much media" exposure - we are bombarded with the negative.
Go to the Politics forum and you'll leave convinced this country is going to wind up in the crapper.
It's the same thing.
I think I should probably take my own advice and stay out of here more...this place overall can be kind of depressing. And I think it paints an unrealistic view of the world. Just like our so-called "news" stations.
The poster i responded to was a female who admitted looks get your foot in the door
If you are talking about me, I never said that. I said looks matter. But I never said look get your foot in the door so much as to form a relationship. You have to have mental, emotional, and physical attraction to have a relationship. Any of those can open a door and any of these can "Grow" as you get to know a person. Although I think looks can "Grow" on you easier than the other two.
The man I am dating now isn't someone that I originally liked for his looks... I was not attracted to him at all physically. But he was kind, funny, we share the same values, and grew on me and became more physically attractive to me the more he became mentally and emotionally attractive.
If it helps, think of it in the opposite way. You can see a beautiful woman, but if you walk up to her and she is cruel, mean, curses, is a racist, picks her nose and eats it, and is uncouth... suddenly she doesn't look so good, right? Some might be repulsed by her for her character despite what they though of her good looks originally. Well, the opposite can happen too.
The man I am dating now isn't someone that I originally liked for his looks... I was not attracted to him at all physically. But he was kind, funny, we share the same values, and grew on me and became more physically attractive to me the more he became mentally and emotionally attractive.
THIS! This describes how some women think and operate. Well said.
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