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9) Before that person can get to know your amazing soul, you have to actually physically attract that person first. Pay attention to how you dress and how you look. First impressions mean a great deal in this world.
This is pretty much 'the entire key' to dating women. Which is not to say all women care about is looks, but it means that you always have to know that no matter how cool she thinks you are, how long you've known her, how many experiences you've shared, she may not be physically attracted to you and that will be the end of that.
It sounds obvious, but it isn't for a lot of men. It wasn't to me until after many, many years. Think about it, and think about how you're going to deal with it based on your own situation. Once you figure out a gameplan, things become easier on sanity.
Meanwhile, while you're depressed, dark-skinned black women are enjoying life, getting flirted with almost daily, are dating and having fun. How do they do it? Well, for one thing, they're very friendly, smile, and have attractive, even bubbly, personalities. Give it a try.
No, that is not the reality that is happening. You're only making up this well constructed lie, to invalidate my claims of colorism. There are plenty of studies and statistical evidence that proves what I am saying. Routinely black men degenerate and disrespect black women, especially darkskinned ones on a regular basis. It's in music, in movies, on the radio, and on many African American blogos. Tommy Sotomayor has over 10 million subscribers, and he regularly criticizes and insults black women. Please stop spreading lies
This is pretty much 'the entire key' to dating women. Which is not to say all women care about is looks, but it means that you always have to know that no matter how cool she thinks you are, how long you've known her, how many experiences you've shared, she may not be physically attracted to you and that will be the end of that.
It sounds obvious, but it isn't for a lot of men. It wasn't to me until after many, many years. Think about it, and think about how you're going to deal with it based on your own situation. Once you figure out a gameplan, things become easier on sanity.
Just want to point out that:
This is pretty much 'the entire key' to dating men. Which is not to say all men care about is looks, but it means that you always have to know that no matter how cool he thinks you are, how long you've known him, how many experiences you've shared, he may not be physically attracted to you and that will be the end of that.
That's just relationships in general: for everyone. Men aren't singled out. Not everyone ends up lovers, no matter how much you like the other person and think they should like you. It's life. And most people cope with it and move on until they find someone who he or she finds attractive who is also attracted to him or her.
This is pretty much 'the entire key' to dating men. Which is not to say all men care about is looks, but it means that you always have to know that no matter how cool he thinks you are, how long you've known him, how many experiences you've shared, he may not be physically attracted to you and that will be the end of that.
That's just relationships in general: for everyone. Men aren't singled out. Not everyone ends up lovers, no matter how much you like the other person and think they should like you. It's life. And most people cope with it and move on until they find someone who he or she finds attractive who is also attracted to him or her.
Yes, that's true. But here's the difference. Ready?
Men approach. Chew on that and then get back to me.
No, that is not the reality that is happening. You're only making up this well constructed lie, to invalidate my claims of colorism.
Nope. A couple of those women post here. Not making it up. Colorism exists, but it's possible to rise above it, beat it, and enjoy life. Just because some study or survey agrees with your low self-esteem doesn't mean you have to buy into it. Others don't. Why should you?
To quote one of my favorite posters here, a 5'4" black male:
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Originally Posted by AdaptAndOvercome;
I rise above the bs that people assign to me, and I become great.
This is pretty much 'the entire key' to dating men. Which is not to say all men care about is looks, but it means that you always have to know that no matter how cool he thinks you are, how long you've known him, how many experiences you've shared, he may not be physically attracted to you and that will be the end of that.
That's just relationships in general: for everyone. Men aren't singled out. Not everyone ends up lovers, no matter how much you like the other person and think they should like you. It's life. And most people cope with it and move on until they find someone who he or she finds attractive who is also attracted to him or her.
Difference is men admit looks are part of the equation alot of women pretend that looks dont matter
yes the internet makes me even more insecure. like how men seem to always post photos of attractive white and biracial women. I feel angry, sad and depressed because I have no value to men or society in general
You should probably stay off the internet or at least these forums.
[quote=Ruth4Truth;32652227]Nope. A couple of those women post here. Not making it up. Colorism exists, but it's possible to rise above it, beat it, and enjoy life. Just because some study or survey agrees with your low self-esteem doesn't mean you have to buy into it. Others don't. Why should you?
You're lying and trying to protect black men. You're nothing but a handmaiden. You know that if you visit any major city you'll see tons of black men with lightskin girlfriends and wives
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