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I do not and will NEVER date a divorced dad as the stakes are too high. Did you know if you marry him you could end up supporting his ex or his kids? Of course many want to remarry they want another woman to help raise their kids or help support them. I have known single dads who expected the new spouse to babysit their kids. If it broke his heart to get divorced that could be a danger too.
There are childless men out there, you just have to dig deeper. I found one.
Never married childless men in their mid-40s who are also successful, and don't look like Ebenezer Scrooge, are probably about as easy to find as Santa Claus on January 1st. My guess is that their popularity among women their own age would be closely linked to their rarity.
Ha, yep, probably so. I'm a never-married childless man in my early 40's who does fairly well among women my age and younger (as well as slightly older sometimes). I'm not even in great shape, nor do I have a 6-figure income, so I can only imagine what it's like for those guys. They would have to really have horrible personalities in order to not have their pick, I would think.
he is short, second he isn't in great shape (he's a bit chubby) or handsome. He's also shy and has a slew of other problems.
Like I said - attractive, successful, never married, childless man around 45 - this is beyond picky, it is in my opinion unrealistic unless your friend is a millionaire. Millionairess? Even in that case, men who fit the provided description are quite likely to have the pick of younger, prettier women which in many cases they might prefer. Did she ever stop to think why a successful, attractive man would elect to stay unmarried and childless?
I'm sorry to say this, and I don't mean to appear jaded or misogynistic, but some women are golddiggers and some men don't mind that so much, as long as they get to take certain precautions (The Trumpmeister comes to mind).
The "arguments" listed against single dads just sound weird to me, but it might be a US thing.
I think she's about 5'9 or so. I think her height could be a factor too.
Indeed it could. I was thinking she was 5' and expecting someone 6'5". She's going to have to be forward though. There may very well be men in your friend's area who meet her "must haves" but fall short in a certain way (ba-da-bum!). They're probably not going to message her knowing there's a good possibility they'll get blown off. Could be the same for men who might not be in the exact same socio-economic strata as she is. Some might find her attractive, but don't message realizing they'll get shot down.
TLDR, your friend's expectations are ridiculously high.
It might do to have her read this thread, if she wants things to change. "Tough love" isn't just for men.
The "arguments" listed against single dads just sound weird to me, but it might be a US thing.
Well, those were not the arguments that I personally would have made.
There's no doubt, dating a divorced dad is tricky, and there is a lot to consider. But most of the childless men I have become involved with were very cold/distant and didn't want marriage or LT commitment. A married male friend who is a father told me that most men are not nurturing until they have kids. I find that single dads are easier to talk to, warmer and generally more caring, and they also are a lot more generous/flexible with their time and space. My last ex would have gotten seriously bent out of shape if I showed up at his place without calling first, even if it were for a really important reason.
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